For me personally it's Identity. I don't want to be called anything I'm not, not because I'm afraid of it but just because It would be an incorrect portrait of my identity.
Also some identity's do unfortunately get a lot of hatred or are even used as an insult such as being called "gay" so it could be that when people misidentify you as something you are not, and the misidentification is a group that receives a fair bit of discrimination or the group name is even used as an insult by some, then you may feel even more inclined to correct someone and inform them of your real identity, not because you have anything at all against gays but because 1. its not who you are ..you are not gay 2. because you may know OR not know the world view on being gay from the person who is saying "you are gay" and why would anyone want anyone else to think anything negative about them based on something that isn't true about them in the first place.
example: if your old time grandpa hates gays, even though you may despise and hate his views, you may be afraid of being labeled gay by your grandpa if your grandpa seems to be hinting that he thinks you are gay, because maybe despite that your grandpa is bigot.. you still love your grandpa and would rather he like you instead of hate you based on things that are not true about you.
Why do straight guys fear being gay so much?
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For me personally it's Identity. I don't want to be called anything I'm not, not because I'm afraid of it but just because It would be an incorrect portrait of my identity.
Also some identity's do unfortunately get a lot of hatred or are even used as an insult such as being called "gay" so it could be that when people misidentify you as something you are not, and the misidentification is a group that receives a fair bit of discrimination or the group name is even used as an insult by some, then you may feel even more inclined to correct someone and inform them of your real identity, not because you have anything at all against gays but because 1. its not who you are ..you are not gay 2. because you may know OR not know the world view on being gay from the person who is saying "you are gay" and why would anyone want anyone else to think anything negative about them based on something that isn't true about them in the first place.
example: if your old time grandpa hates gays, even though you may despise and hate his views, you may be afraid of being labeled gay by your grandpa if your grandpa seems to be hinting that he thinks you are gay, because maybe despite that your grandpa is bigot.. you still love your grandpa and would rather he like you instead of hate you based on things that are not true about you.