I'd say there is no one answer to your question, just as there is no one question to "why do people steal things" there are lots of reasons. here are some in no particular order.
-Lots of males may have negative conscious and/or subconscious views on being gay considering it is a group that obviously has historically received a lot of hate/ negative stereotypes and has only recently been more liberated. Still today, unfortunately that lives on in society. even if a man has no problems with gays he may feel uncomfortable if people thinks he's gay because that group still receives hate from a lot of people, including lots of peoples more old fashioned parents.
- Also, You can be %100 for gay rights, %100 for equality, and still think gay sex is nasty and gross and something you would never try but still have respect for people who do like it.Much like a gay guy can think straight sex is totally gross and repulsive and still respect people who do it, or foot fetish or whatever. Id argue there are A LOT of straight men who feel the former therefore they feel an urge to let people know they are straight because even though they are ok with people being gay, in their world view , they still may internally feel that gay sex is gross and its not representative of the identity they want to show.
just as if someones said " you have a foot fetish" when in truth you find feet to be gross, you being afraid of everyone thinking you have a foot fetish doesn't mean you don't like people with foot fetishes or you think they don't deserve equal rights... it just means you personally think its gross and you don't want other people who might think as you do ( feet are gross/not sexual stimulating) to think this misinformation about you is true
- Ive asked questions on here and people will shout "WHY DID YOU SAY YOU WERE STRAIGHT?" or whatever. Those few fail to see on my questions, that it has nothing to with being afraid of being called gay ... It's simply Informing the people of my demographic. It's no different than saying my age or race. Obviously this isn't always the case with all post but i see it all the time.
example : if you are a man that paints his nails It would be stupid to not include your orientation in your " INN to paint your nails" question. Obviously including your sex and/ orientation or any other info you want will help the vote be accurate to what people feel is normal to your specific demographic which after all is what you are trying to measure yes?. Also as you say the " Im straight but ..." questions... that also doesn't instantly mean someone is a afraid/homophobic, it could be lots of things, but even if they are afraid it could also simply be that they aRe in a transitional phase and perhaps they aRe a bit fearful of this whole new identity or whole new potential identity, an identity that remember... unfortunately lots of people still in this modern world judge harshly upon, including some peoples "gods" and there is nothing unnatural about someone potentially having that fear and we should help them over come it if they are in the closet, or understand it if they are confused about what they want.
kind of rambling now, so wind it up. but I can think of lots of reasons why guys may be/ or appear to be afraid to be called gay. and yes for many it can simply be homophobia, but for many it can also just be identity. I don't want to be called anything I'm not, not because I'm afraid of it but just because Its an incorrect portrait of my identity.
Why do straight guys fear being gay so much?
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I'd say there is no one answer to your question, just as there is no one question to "why do people steal things" there are lots of reasons. here are some in no particular order.
-Lots of males may have negative conscious and/or subconscious views on being gay considering it is a group that obviously has historically received a lot of hate/ negative stereotypes and has only recently been more liberated. Still today, unfortunately that lives on in society. even if a man has no problems with gays he may feel uncomfortable if people thinks he's gay because that group still receives hate from a lot of people, including lots of peoples more old fashioned parents.
- Also, You can be %100 for gay rights, %100 for equality, and still think gay sex is nasty and gross and something you would never try but still have respect for people who do like it.Much like a gay guy can think straight sex is totally gross and repulsive and still respect people who do it, or foot fetish or whatever. Id argue there are A LOT of straight men who feel the former therefore they feel an urge to let people know they are straight because even though they are ok with people being gay, in their world view , they still may internally feel that gay sex is gross and its not representative of the identity they want to show.
just as if someones said " you have a foot fetish" when in truth you find feet to be gross, you being afraid of everyone thinking you have a foot fetish doesn't mean you don't like people with foot fetishes or you think they don't deserve equal rights... it just means you personally think its gross and you don't want other people who might think as you do ( feet are gross/not sexual stimulating) to think this misinformation about you is true
- Ive asked questions on here and people will shout "WHY DID YOU SAY YOU WERE STRAIGHT?" or whatever. Those few fail to see on my questions, that it has nothing to with being afraid of being called gay ... It's simply Informing the people of my demographic. It's no different than saying my age or race. Obviously this isn't always the case with all post but i see it all the time.
example : if you are a man that paints his nails It would be stupid to not include your orientation in your " INN to paint your nails" question. Obviously including your sex and/ orientation or any other info you want will help the vote be accurate to what people feel is normal to your specific demographic which after all is what you are trying to measure yes?. Also as you say the " Im straight but ..." questions... that also doesn't instantly mean someone is a afraid/homophobic, it could be lots of things, but even if they are afraid it could also simply be that they aRe in a transitional phase and perhaps they aRe a bit fearful of this whole new identity or whole new potential identity, an identity that remember... unfortunately lots of people still in this modern world judge harshly upon, including some peoples "gods" and there is nothing unnatural about someone potentially having that fear and we should help them over come it if they are in the closet, or understand it if they are confused about what they want.
kind of rambling now, so wind it up. but I can think of lots of reasons why guys may be/ or appear to be afraid to be called gay. and yes for many it can simply be homophobia, but for many it can also just be identity. I don't want to be called anything I'm not, not because I'm afraid of it but just because Its an incorrect portrait of my identity.