I've never been afraid that I might be gay. From the time I first started having sexual feelings, they were always for girls and women, and that was just the way it was.
When I was sixteen, I was in the hospital for about a week after an operation, and male nurse made it a point to sit down next to my bed and spend time talking to me. This was in the early seventies when homosexuality was still an unfamiliar thing for the vast majority of people, and I was a very naïve kid. Even so, I eventually picked up on the fact that the nurse was interested in other men. My only reaction was curiosity about why he felt like that. In retrospect, it's clear that he was hitting on me and I recall him suggesting that I could come over to the place that he shared with another man (or other men) after I left hospital. I didn't feel insulted, threatened or disgusted, and I wondered what he had in mind for a few seconds, but then I just politely declined the invitation. I didn't see a lot of him after that.
It seems to me that if someone is terrified of being gay, they've probably had feelings that are contrary to what their upbringing has taught them is the norm and "right", and they're determined to bury them deeper.
Why do straight guys fear being gay so much?
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I've never been afraid that I might be gay. From the time I first started having sexual feelings, they were always for girls and women, and that was just the way it was.
When I was sixteen, I was in the hospital for about a week after an operation, and male nurse made it a point to sit down next to my bed and spend time talking to me. This was in the early seventies when homosexuality was still an unfamiliar thing for the vast majority of people, and I was a very naïve kid. Even so, I eventually picked up on the fact that the nurse was interested in other men. My only reaction was curiosity about why he felt like that. In retrospect, it's clear that he was hitting on me and I recall him suggesting that I could come over to the place that he shared with another man (or other men) after I left hospital. I didn't feel insulted, threatened or disgusted, and I wondered what he had in mind for a few seconds, but then I just politely declined the invitation. I didn't see a lot of him after that.
It seems to me that if someone is terrified of being gay, they've probably had feelings that are contrary to what their upbringing has taught them is the norm and "right", and they're determined to bury them deeper.