Why do people hate on others for no reason?

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Looking back now, I realized that many people bullied me - teasing, talking behind my back, backstabbing etc for no reason. I didn’t think much of it back then even tho it affected me so bad, I didn’t even know it was bullying until I turned 16 (bcuz at first, I thought bullying is only physical). This question always pops up in my mind whenever I get picked on although I never bothered to ask up until now.

I was an easy target pretty much. I had an inferiority complex and low self-esteem. I had a tendency to be passive. I also have social anxiety. I’m the type who doesn’t like attention. I did pretty much everything to not stand out, from clothing to sitting at the back, but none of those ever worked. I was pretty much misunderstood because of my shy and reserved nature, which could be seen as “snobbish”.

I’ve never got into a fight or argument at school which could’ve cause them to hate or bully me. Are my personalities or behaviors the reason why they did so?

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  • HeTalksInMaths
    5 years ago

    Insecurity + stupidity

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    • Ellenna
      5 years ago

      I assume you mean the bullies?

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      • HeTalksInMaths
        5 years ago

        I was answering the question: "Why do people hate on others for no reason?"

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        • Ellenna
          5 years ago

          Oh OK, plus the old reason: Because they can get away with it, although fortunately less and less these days, I hope

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          • HeTalksInMaths
            5 years ago

            I guess. Also, poor emotional regulation. probably caused by growing up in a setting where anger & hate were the standard response to disagreements

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  • CDmale4fem
    5 years ago

    My thoughts is that the bullies are so unhappy with their own lives, so they feel they have to put others down to make themself feel better. The lives they lead, they also have nothing better to do but keep looking at others lives and passing judgements. Again so that they can put themself up on their own pedestal. They think they are high and mighty. People like that just need a good ass whoopin. Let them know they are like the rest of us, they put their pants on the same, and wipe their ass the same.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Bullies don't bully people they see as stronger than themselves and zero in on vulnerable people. I'm sorry that happened to you and I hope your life is much happier now.-

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      Thanks:)

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      • Ellenna
        5 years ago

        You're welcome

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  • TheBlindInquisitor
    5 years ago

    Becuase some people are assholes.

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  • gqksl
    5 years ago

    It's normal to experience that but none of it is your fault. I am going through the same thing now and it's hard but we can get through it. You're lucky if you have people to support and love you while you're going through this. If you have no one who understands you like me, trust me, you'll be fine. You only need yourself anyway and the sooner you realize that, the sooner you'd stop caring about what people think and their meanness won't affect you anymore.

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  • Yobrepaid
    5 years ago

    Bullies often have low self-esteem and they seek out easy targets to torment in order to feel better about themselves. For example, a bully might see a kid who looks socially awkward and insecure and thinks, "I know my life sucks, but at least I'm not this dork who looks like his mom buys all his clothes for him from out of a 1970s Sears catalog." The bully may come from a dysfunctional family of alcoholic parents and has to deal with all the problems that this brings, so to ease his mind and help him to forget about the police showing up to arrest his father on a drunk driving charge he skipped out of court on, he directs his attention to the poor kid whose clothes are conspicuously out of fashion and calls him out on this, taking comfort in knowing that at least his own clothing is appropriate for the current decade.

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  • tch43436SensuousPantyhose
    5 years ago

    Jealousy, coveting thy neighbor is unhealthy.Adolation of idols is the love of inanimate items and greed is not what is important. Enough is never enough.Graven images are the carrot and the stick. Be blessed for what you need not what you want.

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  • OlickmylickmylickO
    5 years ago

    bc you are just bad in a way you dont notice not to be mean ;-;
    i mean i get bullied myself too and its pretty easy to notice but friends and family are all you need right?

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