Why do people cheat?

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Now, I'm not saying that all men cheat, or that all women cheat. I hate when people generalize. Anyway, lately I've been wondering what drives someone to cheat. I have developed a few thoughts on the matter myself, here they are.

Some people must cheat because of the thrill of knowing they could be caught.

Some people who cheat never really cared about the person to being with.

Some people must truly believe that there is nothing wrong with going behind the other persons back.

Do you agree with what I've said? Do you disagree? If you have thoughts about this put them in the comments below.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    6 years ago

    They cheat because something in the relationship has changed(financial worries, they have kids, sexual needs, etc). Instead of trying to work it out, they cheat.

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  • karmasAbich
    6 years ago

    To bake the cake and eat it too. They get their family, and they get to act out fantasies. best of both worlds. reality and fantasy intertwine. and then things clash, because obviously reality and fantasy don't belong together.

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  • RoseIsabella
    6 years ago

    People cheat because they're selfish cowards who want to have their cake and eat it too, because they're afraid to go it alone. People also cheat because they are shitty people of low morals.

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    • BabySilver
      6 years ago

      Those damn whores!! WHORES AND SLUTS....thats all I need....well that and blue gatorade.

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      • RoseIsabella
        6 years ago

        Damn straight, gotta stay hydrated!!!
        ☆☆☆☆☆
        >:-D

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    • wigz
      6 years ago

      I think it's pretty harsh to simplify it like that. Plenty of good people do less than good things from time to time, it's less about the thing they did than how they recover from it.

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  • wigz
    6 years ago

    I think most people cheat because of life. Life just happens.

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    • JonathanOo
      6 years ago

      I agree. Sometimes people cheat without even realizing it. Its not always intentional or thought out in advance. Sometimes people do make mistakes and just get caught up in the moment

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      • wigz
        6 years ago

        And not just getting caught in the moment, but sometimes your life takes turns you could never imagine and it's impossible to know how you'll react until it happens. It's easy to say you'd never do this or that (and condemn people who do) but it's quite another to actually be put in such a complicated situation.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        6 years ago

        I understand that people make mistakes. I just find it hard to understand when people don't see the mistakes they've made.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Would you care to elaborate?

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      • wigz
        6 years ago

        Well, look at the reasons you listed. They're true but they're also very immature (not saying that in a derogatory way, just saying you're leaving out a lot, maybe most, people). They're typical reasons for very young people or people who aren't very invested in a relationship but what about people who are older, people who have long-term relationships, marriages, etc?

        Tons of people who cheat love their SO dearly but life happens and things they never expected to happen...happen. Tragedy, illness, drug addiction, stress, children, relationship dynamics, work...life changes. It's not so black and white.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          But how does one equate to the other? What makes them turn to cheating?

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          • wigz
            6 years ago

            From my experience, when you're young there's either every excuse for, or NO excuse for, cheating. But when you actually live life, you find there's so many variables...very few people ever think it would go that way but certain situations even the best of people find themselves in can be very trying.

            I think it's less about an 'individual' defect than simply a human condition.

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          • JonathanOo
            6 years ago

            Like he said, life or a sudden change can lead to a meeting or friendship that can end up as cheating. Once good partners realize what the have done they apologize and do their best to learn from the mistake. Sometimes even just getting drunk one day and getting taken advantage of can happen. Their are so many variables but not everyone cheats to end or get out of a relationship. Or even with a better person. It's not all black and white as stated beore

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            • wigz
              6 years ago

              You've listed some spur of the moment scenarios but there's other things more long-term like illness, home life, depression, addiction...so many things that a person can't even imagine could ever influence them just happen. If you can't even imagine the scenario, how can you reliably predict how you'll act in it? Everyone likes to imagine they'd always do the 'right' thing but until they are faced with all the pressures, they can't know. Most people fail themselves (their expectations of themselves) numerous times over. Most people also expect way more out of others than they themselves give. There's an old saying...we judge ourselves on our intents and others on their actions. Quite true!

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  • Tealights
    6 years ago

    Cheating in general, whether it be in a relationship or on a test, it's always 100% selfish. You don't want to fail. You want this. You want that. He's or She's not giving you enough of this or that. It's always about me, myself, and I; that's what cheating is, it's about you getting what you want at any cost.

    Relationship wise, no one cheats and not know it; even with emotional cheating, you can feel the knot there, that brief moment when you realize that you're happier, more attracted, more in love with someone else; because we treat those we have strong feelings for differently, whether we want to or not. Though our actions may not seem as noticeable to us, it's more obvious to those around us, especially your partner. Because of that, you know not to tell your partner, but make excuses instead.

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  • youwillgotohell
    6 years ago

    The worst of humans cheat. But don't worry they get back for what they do.

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  • HeyFellowKids
    6 years ago

    They get bored of their partner, yet don't want to end the relationship because of negative effects, such as financial, emotional, and more.

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  • Tiffany2016
    6 years ago

    Cheating is fun and exciting!

    Most people cheat these days, as the internet has made it much easier, so it is much more normal now than 20 years ago.

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  • mrsteve
    6 years ago

    You could go slightly further Adam and eve had sons and daughters where did the sons children come from bible doesn't say but common sense says incest if there supposed by the first humans

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  • mrsteve
    6 years ago

    Society pushes monogamy but certain religions say having more than 1wife is acceptable Mormons arab countries also so who is wright society or religion and most people are religious and follow doctrine bible says wife yet old testament says wives

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  • Carlton03
    6 years ago

    No matter what they may think, there's absolutely no excuse for it!!!!!

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  • Carlton03
    6 years ago

    There disgusting that's why, no excuse for it, I have heard plenty of guys over the years chat openly about cheating, it's so fuckin disgusting... guys with kids, it's so messed up, Greedy ARSEHOLES, don't wanna give up sleeping with multiple partners also don't wanna be single or alone, COMPLETE GREEDINESS AND DISGUST IS ALL I CAN SAY, SELFISH AND DONT CONSIDER THEIR WIVES HUSBANDS/ BOYFRIENDS/GIRLFRIENDS

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  • Handyman
    6 years ago

    It also depends on what you mean by cheating. It could also be sexting, watching porn, even masturbating or online affairs. And each could have a different reason.

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  • pizzabrowniesushi
    6 years ago

    they feel unloved bored and they are kind of douchapotamuses

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  • mrsteve
    6 years ago

    Its in our nature having more than 1 sexual partner increases the chances of pregnancy and strong off spring

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      Then they wouldn't lie. Why feel the need to hide something supposedly natural.

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      • wigz
        6 years ago

        If society pushes monogamy so hard and you never really question it then of course it can very likely end up in disaster. Seriously, how many people are even able to rationally consider if monogamy is 'right' for them or not? We grow up seeing two people together, in life, in TV, movies, from birth we are influenced that monogamy is it. Disney movies and every cartoon I can think of perpetuate monogamy. It's just what we are told is 'the way' from birth practically. Few people really take a step back and examine how they honestly personally feel about that. It's not that people are purposely lying, it's more that they penciled themselves into a box they never really vetted out beforehand. We're never shown an alternative. Anything other than monogamy is all shoved behind closed doors and the very concept of having more than one partner is so foreign and so taboo (or labelled as 'cheating') that it's never even seen as a possible option to openly do anything other than be with one person.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          6 years ago

          Polygamy and cheating are not the same thing. The act of being with multiple people is not wrong, it's the betrayal.

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          • wigz
            6 years ago

            What I am saying is, few people even consider that anything other than monogamy is even an option. If you don't know there's any other way, and you push yourself into a life based on your limited view, but it's not 'natural' for you, you're not a liar...you just never knew there was any other way and your tendencies aren't inherently 'wrong'.

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  • Aries
    6 years ago

    they want the perks of being in a relationship but they also want to satisfy their sexual appetite fucking others that turn them on . It's pretty simple , otherwise they just don't want to go through divorce hassle .

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