Well, as a guy that has known many guys don't like "the chase", we don't like the chase. There are those that do but in general, I don't believe men like the chase. It expects guys to do pretty much all the work and we want someone that will fight for us as much as we would for them.
However, guys, or the ones I know (I don't know all guys but I am sure some like it), do not want to have a barrage of information you would see on a dating site description. The best way for you to have a guy like you more is to have fun with them, be humerous, engage in pleasant conversation that isn't serious and something you can both laugh at and talk about.
I have had girls do this to me in the past, they would just barrage me with personal information (these are the ones that "liked" me), and tha's fine aslong as I have asked about it and showed I want to know. But I tend to just see it as a chore to respond back. I just want to enjoy speaking to them, have funny conversations, and so on.
Guys want a "Wow, she's hilarious! She makes it comfortable to be around her!" type of girl, not the "Damn, she's been through a lot...She keeps telling me all these terrible things" type of thing. That's how you get sympathy from someone and people don't want to be around those they have to be sad around all the time.
Thanks for the helpful info ! It really helped a lot to clarify exactly what guys are into. I'm not saying I'm gonna change who I am but just alternate some of my habits.
What you described guys or he would like is probably the reason why he liked me in the first place. But then because I started really liking him, you can't help but get emotionally attached and want to make it work. So I have been annoying always confronting him bout what's bothering me and yes some things I do have a right to be upset about.
But lately, rather than confronting him in an emotional way, I'll confront him w a sense of humor and hell respond back rather than just leaving me hanging cause he doesn't wanna do anything w the convo.
But I barely tell him bout my problems out of the relationship. Its more between us. But you say that girls being too emotional is kind of a cry for attention and sympathy like blackmail in the eyes of guys? I mean I haven't really cried in front of him just confront him bout a lot of things and idk if he sees it as blackmail and not gonna fall for it or he just doesn't care to be a part of the conversation but he still wants to be w me. As long as he knows I'm not the average crazy looking girl I'm just crazy bout him and that's where all of this is coming from, then I'll be satisfied. So hopefully if I let him know about that, then hell understand and not run away from me and hell be back w the person he liked in the first place
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Well, as a guy that has known many guys don't like "the chase", we don't like the chase. There are those that do but in general, I don't believe men like the chase. It expects guys to do pretty much all the work and we want someone that will fight for us as much as we would for them.
However, guys, or the ones I know (I don't know all guys but I am sure some like it), do not want to have a barrage of information you would see on a dating site description. The best way for you to have a guy like you more is to have fun with them, be humerous, engage in pleasant conversation that isn't serious and something you can both laugh at and talk about.
I have had girls do this to me in the past, they would just barrage me with personal information (these are the ones that "liked" me), and tha's fine aslong as I have asked about it and showed I want to know. But I tend to just see it as a chore to respond back. I just want to enjoy speaking to them, have funny conversations, and so on.
Guys want a "Wow, she's hilarious! She makes it comfortable to be around her!" type of girl, not the "Damn, she's been through a lot...She keeps telling me all these terrible things" type of thing. That's how you get sympathy from someone and people don't want to be around those they have to be sad around all the time.
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Thanks for the helpful info ! It really helped a lot to clarify exactly what guys are into. I'm not saying I'm gonna change who I am but just alternate some of my habits.
What you described guys or he would like is probably the reason why he liked me in the first place. But then because I started really liking him, you can't help but get emotionally attached and want to make it work. So I have been annoying always confronting him bout what's bothering me and yes some things I do have a right to be upset about.
But lately, rather than confronting him in an emotional way, I'll confront him w a sense of humor and hell respond back rather than just leaving me hanging cause he doesn't wanna do anything w the convo.
But I barely tell him bout my problems out of the relationship. Its more between us. But you say that girls being too emotional is kind of a cry for attention and sympathy like blackmail in the eyes of guys? I mean I haven't really cried in front of him just confront him bout a lot of things and idk if he sees it as blackmail and not gonna fall for it or he just doesn't care to be a part of the conversation but he still wants to be w me. As long as he knows I'm not the average crazy looking girl I'm just crazy bout him and that's where all of this is coming from, then I'll be satisfied. So hopefully if I let him know about that, then hell understand and not run away from me and hell be back w the person he liked in the first place