Why do bi people still feel shameful for being this way?

I just found out my crush is bi sexual, I suppose go figure as shes way to lady like and femme to be a full blown lesbian. I always thought she was 100% gay since she made a lesbian group but I suppose that's ignorant thinking. Anyways I just read on a post a comment she had made in regards to being bi and saying something Long the lines of "knowing I am not the only one that feels shame and guilt"...
She is much older than me, shes 33 and I am 26f. Any ideas why she still feels guilty at this age? I thought it's a process where you end up acting yourself and being content with who you are.

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  • Because bi people get shit on a ton. A lot of people think bi-sexuality is a stop on the way to gaytown & don't take it seriously. A lot of people refuse to date bi-sexuals because they think the cheating pool is twice as big & feel threatened. Bi-sexual people get judged hard & sometimes shunned within the gay community- which is a big fat load, considering the fact that they had to fight so hard for acceptance.

    All the shit that bi people have to deal with sucks balls, and it makes sense that your crush might internalize that.

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    • You know who else gets shit on a ton?
      People into scat and coprophagia. Also ass-eaters whose partner has severe dysentery.

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      • That's a whole different topic and that's not a sexuality. Its a disgusting unhealthy fetish

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      • I'm into scat and coprophagia! It's great! And me and my girlfriend both drink a lot of prune juice so we have buckets and buckets of it to dump on each other and eat/drink during sex!!!!! Not disgusting at all! It's an incredible turn on!

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        • Hahahahhahahahahahhahahahahahah funny fella

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      • Never forget the poop-o-philes.

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    • You think she would feel less guilty if she were 100% gay? Or would it make no difference in regards to her feelings. Would they still be the same?

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    • Interesting, despite already having an idea towards bi sexuality I wasnt aware it was so judged. I always thought that a lot of bi people do tend to ruin its reputation/image due to people using bi to have the best of both worlds so to speak, using it for lustful means and not taking the title seriously as in loving both genders equally as well as being attracted to both. I think some can also be more promiscuous and I feel like the chances could be higher with bi people but obviously Not condemning all bi as there are always exceptions to the rule at play.
      Quite surprised the LGBT community slanders bi sexuality though, out of all types of people, LGBT is meant to be the least judgmental. Sexuality other than straight already have enough of a hard time with the hetrosexuals so why make it harder and just Not support one another. With having said that, if the majority of bi didn't ruin its image by such behavior, people wouldn't have such a prejudice

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      • How do you know the majority of bisexual people ruin its image by any behavior on their part? You're guessing and jumping to conclusions based on your own prejudices.

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        • How else do they acquire such an image? As if people would pull it from their ass

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    • This.

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  • There are parts of the gay community that shun bisexuals because the stereotype behind it is bisexuals are sluts that will cheat, fuck everything, and do anything. While stereotypes come fron a true place, most bi people aren't like that. The few that are promiscuous are loud about it and they get around so they're waaay more known.

    Then there's the fake bisexuals who are either only straight people experimenting or they later on admit they pretended to be bi to get attention. Their actions break hearts and lead people on.

    Then there's parts of the gay community that won't accept you unless you're naturally born your gender, attracted to ONLY the same gender, and are farting rainbows out of your ass.

    Honestly the whole thing is bs. You'd think a community that was discriminated against would be the one accepting of others, but nope. They decide to just keep spreading the hate.

    Btw, I'm bisexual and when I was looking for a man or woman to date, I got shit for it. I'd go on dating sites and the men would ask me if I'd fuck dogs, participate in gang bangs, and other dumb shit. Theyd act dumbfounded if I said no sice I'm bi. The women would be insulting and talk shit about how I'd cheat. I was a virgin at the time, so that talk was hurtful. The meetups were a disaster as well. After that shit, Im honestly done with the LGBT community. XD

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    • What about coprophagia (a.k.a. a shit eating fetish)? I eat shit every day during sex and it's just such an incredible turn on to me! Would that typically be accepted within the community or not really? I mean I see how LGBT has the plus sign at the end of the acronym, but I never really see anybody talking much about the C for coprophagia, I wonder why?

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      • Hahahahahhaha TROLL

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    • "They" who spread hate are surely a tiny minority within the LGBTQI community/communities?

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  • She's not A LOT older than you. Only 7 years, and thats nothing. Some people just have not been able to adjust their feelings and emotions around the part of their sexuality. I am a male cross dresser and I still have not after 40 yrs figured out how to adapt, adjust, and cope. But so what if shes bi. You could be the one in her life to keep her true to you. You never know unless you make your feelings known.

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  • Iam bicurious but arracted to women dont hide it

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  • I only judge bi guys. Bi females seem way more genuine. Every "bi" guy I ever met was just gay.

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    • Most bi guys are just lust driven and contribute to ruining the reputation of a genuine bi

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      • Exactly. I've gotten to that point. Proven I'm not gay... that was embarrassing. That's why I dont classify as bi. Straight through and through.

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  • I'm bi and feel no shame or guilt about it whatsoever and nobody I mix with has negative views about it.

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