Why did i come out all to remain alone

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I'm 26 lesbian and I came out 2 years ago. I tried to find a gf and threw in th towel. I feel like I went through all that sexuality anxiety and confusion all to remain single!! I never had a relationship nor kissed a women. Dating sites are trashy and no decent women on there. I went to LGBT clubs, odd lgbt event here and there. Cant click with anyone on a deeper level or feel that spark! I developed feelings for a 42 yr old who's the wrong person and ghosted me anyway. So what am I meant to do now

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FromTheSouthWeirdMan

4 years ago

You have to keep trying at it. Dating can be rough.

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  4 years ago
  
  Okay thank u! Yet I haven't dated as found no one I felt something for that is available
  
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GaelicPotato

4 years ago

Dating isnt super easy. That, and men are easier to conquer. We probably say yes a lot easier.

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leggs91200

4 years ago

Dating sites do suck for sure.
Too many fat ugly women who are raising small kids, single, collecting disability, don't have time to date, don't drive, live in some awkward housing arrangement, and are not looking for sex.

But god damn it to hell, you better have YOUR shit together before messaging them. And you better love kids, obese women, and not mind critter infestations.

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Mammal-lover

4 years ago

Dating is hard especially when you are lgbt. Dont let it way you down. Just go to events you like do stuff you enjoy etc you'll meet someone. Try a gay bar maybe?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Umm but sexuality is fluid especially with women plus I tried all that
  
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d0esnormalmatter

4 years ago

Gotta lower those standards it sounds like.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Can't
  
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  - d0esnormalmatter
    
    4 years ago
    
    Yes you 100% can. Just don't want to because your either insecure or not actually that desperate.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      4 years ago
      
      How am I insecure if u have high standards lol
      
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      - d0esnormalmatter
        
        4 years ago
        
        You aren't insecure now, you would be insecure if you lowered your standards so you don't lower them.
        
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        4 years ago
        
        Ah
        
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Nikclaire

4 years ago

To attempt to answer your question I think it's probably more difficult for us to find partners. I have had to deal with girls who were just curious or pretending or trying it out. It doesn't help that it's considered "cool" to be lesbian or bi or fluid.

Sheer statistics say there are less gay people so of course it will be more difficult.

For some reason I have never had an issue hooking up but I seem to be unable to find a long term commitment. You have to consider too that not every woman is 100% comfy being out and may be struggling themselves.

Hang in there. It's tots normal.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  I regret encouraging my sister to date this guy as shes only 21 and now been with him 1 yr!! Text every day, rings, hangs on weekends! Wtf! Talk about picture perfect. No one I had feelings for ever done that for me
  
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  - Nikclaire
    
    4 years ago
    
    Sorry but I have no idea what any of that has to do with your post.
    
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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  4 years ago
  
  Thanks u!! Sometimes I feel so depressed.
  Also I felt sexuality is fluid especially with women? I heard women are 3x more likey to change their sexuality
  
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- leggs91200
  
  4 years ago
  
  Yeah, a lot of lesbians are just experimenting or trying to be "Cool" as you said.
  
  What happens at some point is they decide they want a "normal" life where they sit at home while some beta male works his ass off to support her.
  
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litelander8

4 years ago

Good things take time.

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PleaseTalkToMe

4 years ago

Anyone ?

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- Nikclaire
  
  4 years ago
  
  It takes a while for posts to show up. Yours just did in the last 30 minutes or so. I am sure someone will respond. Have patience.
  
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    4 years ago
    
    Oh okay cool
    
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  - litelander8
    
    4 years ago
    
    It just came up my feed.
    
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    - Nikclaire
      
      4 years ago
      
      I often wonder how many people give up and leave the site due to the lag. Any other comment board on the internet gives immediate postings, or very near it.
      
      Only here do you have to wait almost an entire day to see your post.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Oof :(
        
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      - litelander8
        
        4 years ago
        
        For sure. It definitely takes over 24 hours for people to respond on my posts. And I won’t have anything on my feed except for maybe once or twice a day and there will be five to fifteen new posts. Whatever. This site is work it to me. 🤷🏾‍♀️
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        4 years ago
        
        Yeah no good
        
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        Nikclaire
        
        4 years ago
        
        I know. I get all the new posts at once too.
        
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