Why cant i find a relationship?

This is what, your 3rd post this month? You’re not going to find a girlfriend on IIN.

I understand that watching your friends find love when you’re still single sucks, and when it’s a close relative it’s even worse. But you need to recognise that you have become obsessed with finding a relationship. Life does not owe you a partner just because you’re 25.

I doubt you will listen but the best advice I can give you is to stop seeing the engaged girl and unfollow her social media too. Then find something exciting to do, try rock climbing, sign up for an improv class, volunteer at an animal shelter, do literally anything to give you a life outside of pining for a girlfriend. And finally consider therapy, it sounds like you have deep rooted insecurites -the solution to which is not a girlfriend to “fix you”.

It would almost seem to me that you are trying and looking way to hard. Have you ever heard the saying "A watched pot never boils." He'll i am in my late 50's. I haven't had a relationship in about as long as you Have been alive. Yea it sucks. You say you are searching for lesbians? Maybe try expanding your group that you are open to dating. I know why I'm not meeting females that would go out with me. I'm legally blind and a crossdressing male. But I know if you were looking for a man to go out with, you could honestly have them lined up down the street. BUT DONT, have your self respect. Do not settle for less than you are ready or looking for. DO NOT LET OTHERS JUDGE YOU and do not judge your self worth by the minor little thing about if you are or have dated or not. All in due time. I firmly believe that God has a plan for us. We are meant to meet the one when it's our time. Or if you like the idea of being with a female, maybe consider dating crossdressers or find a guy that's really effeminate and get him to put on a dress and some mail order breasts. Lol. Jk. But focus on other aspects of your life and don't dwell so much in negative. Think and be positive and it really helps. Really.

You sound too bitter of your sister. Try to be proud of her and not envy her. You'll meet a good one eventually. Perhaps you should start hanging out at a gay bar.

Don't wait for someone else to pursue *you*. Also, deciding you're not "meant to have a relationship" because you're *25* and haven't had one is ridiculous. Either put more effort into it, or chill a bit and wait until you meet someone that you find attractive.

Outside of the face saving and sad platitude of the logistics and population metrics of finding a partner, especially when you are looking for a more feminine lesbian, I noticed something.

Am I just not meant to ever have a relationship, am I not good enough for *a women to pursue?*

You are asking for both feminine *and* someone to pursue you. I dare say you're going to have to be the one who does the pursuing. You will need to be the one who makes the intentions known, sets the dates, and courts the feminine maiden.

I'm in a college town, and the 30+ lesbians are left competing to pursue and chase after the 18-25 year old lesbians. And then sorting them into the "Gay Until Graduation" and "Possible Partners" categories.

You have my sympathy regardless in navigating the space.

Where ever you are and whoever you are with just open your mouth and speak. It works wonders.

Second sentence would explain it, start dating. Try going online if your nervous or don't have much connections.