Why cant i find a gf?

It's normal to have a base standard of the type of person you're looking for. What's important though is that you keep your.. requirements minimal and/or at least flexible.

While we wanna be in a relationship but currently aren't, it's a good opportunity to self reflect on personal traits that could potentially be improved upon. I for one would always sit down after a breakup and think about what I could do to improve. That's not to say there's something wrong with you. I'm simply saying that everyone has a thing or two that could be worked on. What better time is there than while single and free to do so?

You know what ...
Sometimes you will find that special girl when you least expect it .
She may or maybe not be on you're list .
Love is funny that way you can write it down but until it happens open you're eyes you never know you might have already met her .

Best way to meet someone is join a club
Bowling club or an art club something .

How many girls have you found that does match your standards? Regardless if she wanted to date you or not. I dont think your standards sound unreasonable but its not a good idea to think out the person too much beforehand,its just random coincidence what traits a person will actually have. Asside from that have you thought through how much YOU have to offer in terms of attractiveness and a relationship? Both personality and appearence does matter (different people might put different weigth on each) and so does hygiene. Its not everything you can change but overall try to improve what you can improve naturally. Staying healthy and maintaining good hygiene is pretty much synonymous with maintaining a good appearence (again its not all you can change and some other people may have high standards as well). Be also counscious of how you view and treat women, would you like to be treated the same way? If in chat could there be something wrong with the way you start conversations? And of course actually meeting up with people and get to know them is crucial. Im not an expert but maybe some of the advice could help.

Internet dating is the worst. While I did in fact meet my wife on the internet... I estimate at least 10,000 contacts were we at least exchanged messages over at least 20 years before I met her. So many scammers, fakes, and lairs. I met in person extremely few real people who were honest (less than a handful in 20 years). My wife also tells me that she had given up on the internet thing as well because of all the "strange" men who contacted her. Then my contact message came in - and between it and my profile I was so different... (although she did figure I was crazy... but knew I worked in nuclear power plants at the time and that they screen for that - so I must be somewhat safe).

I met far more people in real life by going to events and joining organizations that did things I was interested in. Finding GF's was not difficult so I almost always had at least one (I never hid that I had another - which was part of the discussion before we moved to sex: and I could have had sex with many more than I did). Finding "the one" I wanted to marry was.

I suggest that you become involved in the local or regional gay groups, and places they frequent. Get involved in organizations that do things you are interested in (and some of the other ladies will also be responsive to you).

Ask people who you become casual friends for recommendations for a GF for you.

The game of life is played with real people. Not internet profiles.

I wish you the best with this,

Try looking in real life rather than online, where many fake who they are

Have you tried being a frequent at a gaybar