Why can't i change?

when i took a 5-year break from my best girlfriends, it was so that i could grow and change and come back a better person. i tried to get back in touch and spend time with them after years apart, but it seems as though i'm the same idiot to them. although i've made an effort to mature and change some of my bad habits, i'm still treated like the one in the group that everyone's sick of.

it seems people are bitter or insecure towards me because i'm constantly being insulted. i always feel like i have to defend myself.

i'm tired.

Is It Normal?
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  • Whats not normal is that you took five years away from them and want to invest that time into impressing them? Did you not make any new friends in that time?

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  • You might change, but the ppl around u might not accept the change.

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  • I would get rid of them and find some new friends.

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  • They aren't your best friends. You're trying everything to please them but you shouldn't. Just be yourself and if they can't take it and they're sick of it, then fine.

    Good on you for trying to grow as a person and making an effort to better yourself though. You could have outgrown them.

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  • those are friends?

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  • yep i know that exact feeling and iv come to the conclusion that YOUR actually the Superior one not the outcast so flip the script start acting like the leader and they WILL follow.

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  • I think it's normal. But if they are your friends, then they are your friends and maybe like you say, there's something in yourself you need to reflect on.

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  • yup sounds about right your best friends are there to always see you the same it's gona take a whole lot to make them change. sorry but that's the way of it.

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