Believing there's something wonderful about being a virgin is as nonsensical as believing that someone who hasn't seen Niagara Falls, never eaten Camembert cheese, or never attended a Verdi opera in the Verona Roman amphitheatre possesses some amazing mystical quality. Being a virgin simply means you haven't yet experienced something; there's nothing amazing about it, since everyone starts out that way, and not being a virgin simply means you've experienced something that the majority of people eventually do.
Your ex's attitude was fucked up, and it's good that he's an ex.
I think Nikclaire's response applies in a lot of cases: a guy who is profoundly insecure about his sexual abilities (and/or equipment) would much prefer that any woman he has sex with have no experience with other men whom she can compare him to. Even if she doesn't give a damn about his lack of smooth sexual moves or his two-inch dick because he has other qualities that outweigh these liabilities, he's likely to never believe her if she tells him this. In his mind, he'll be sure she's constantly comparing him to another guy and he's falling short of him.
Another possibility is that your ex believed that because you'd had sex before, you were "damaged goods". This is pretty common in cultures and religions where women are viewed as the property of their fathers, brothers and husbands.
I can, in a way, understand the "damaged good" thing (not religiously speaking). I feel like it myself. I wish I'd sleep with only one woman and stay with her for the rest of her life.
Why are some guys obsessed over virginitys?
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Believing there's something wonderful about being a virgin is as nonsensical as believing that someone who hasn't seen Niagara Falls, never eaten Camembert cheese, or never attended a Verdi opera in the Verona Roman amphitheatre possesses some amazing mystical quality. Being a virgin simply means you haven't yet experienced something; there's nothing amazing about it, since everyone starts out that way, and not being a virgin simply means you've experienced something that the majority of people eventually do.
Your ex's attitude was fucked up, and it's good that he's an ex.
I think Nikclaire's response applies in a lot of cases: a guy who is profoundly insecure about his sexual abilities (and/or equipment) would much prefer that any woman he has sex with have no experience with other men whom she can compare him to. Even if she doesn't give a damn about his lack of smooth sexual moves or his two-inch dick because he has other qualities that outweigh these liabilities, he's likely to never believe her if she tells him this. In his mind, he'll be sure she's constantly comparing him to another guy and he's falling short of him.
Another possibility is that your ex believed that because you'd had sex before, you were "damaged goods". This is pretty common in cultures and religions where women are viewed as the property of their fathers, brothers and husbands.
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I can, in a way, understand the "damaged good" thing (not religiously speaking). I feel like it myself. I wish I'd sleep with only one woman and stay with her for the rest of her life.