Ok, well, in response, no it doesn't irritate me.
It's only irritating when I am trying to do something and he won't leave me the fuck alone, or when he his flirtatiousness is so strong that it affects whatever I am doing at the moment.
A man just talking to me period doesn't bother me. It's just talking, that's stupid. But some women are really superficial like that, which does get annoying to watch. I call that being conceited... assuming that every man that talks to you is trying to get into your pants because you're THAT special...
Thats what I am saying, and even then when a man makes what could be considered a "move" or a polite date request its like "oh my gosh, it was so weird, he asked me out to dinner" And I am not talking like some weird situation like a 50 yr old guy asking out a 20 yr old or something, if the 50 yr old is dumb (or ballsy) enough to do that you really cant have good expectations, not that I blame them for trying, but I am talking like similar ages, looks, etc....
And then it seems more and more you dont even get polite reactions, or the even the dignity of a "no" what they do is just ignore you like "he will go away" or "I did answer I ignored you" Like seriously? fuck you already, who the hell do you think you are?
"And I am not talking like some weird situation like a 50 yr old guy asking out a 20 yr old or something, if the 50 yr old is dumb (or ballsy) enough to do that you really cant have good expectations"
Oh. Because I really do find that weird.
I respect persistence, but when I say that I am not interested, that means I am not interested yet I do appreciate the compliment. Call me conceited, but when a man asks me out or expresses interest in me, from my perspective, it's a compliment.
But if he just will not stop, that gets annoying. But that goes for any area in communication.
Yeh I find the age difference really weird as well. I mean hey go for it I guess, you never know, but you can kinda hedge your bets that the girl is gonna blow you off AND think you are perverted for trying. Especially if you arent a good looking 50 and the 20 yr old is a good looking 20.
At least you respect it as a compliment and dont run away at persistence. I wouldnt even bother with persistence, part of it would be ego, like yeh okay you arent interested? Thats fine BUT I certainly aint gonna bother again. But a bigger part of me is just afraid of looking like a creepy persistant weirdo, like the girl is gonna be like "Leave me alone you psycho!"
Yeah, to be honest, when a guy keeps bothering me with his advances (following me, constantly interrupting conversation between myself and my other friends, especially when I am doing other things) and I have already made it clear that I am not interested (at this point, all I should have to say is "sorry, I have a husband") then I do start to think he might have something wrong with him.
At which point I am more concerned for my safety if anything. Then it gets awkward. I had to go to school in my security uniform the other day and some guy (he was cute) asked me for a strip search and was going to let me... and I tried to be as non-awkward as possible but uh... yeah that gets awkward. Especially since he has seen me with my husband.
Why are relationships and dating such a hassle?
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Same for you that I said above to lula. Like word for word.
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Ok, well, in response, no it doesn't irritate me.
It's only irritating when I am trying to do something and he won't leave me the fuck alone, or when he his flirtatiousness is so strong that it affects whatever I am doing at the moment.
A man just talking to me period doesn't bother me. It's just talking, that's stupid. But some women are really superficial like that, which does get annoying to watch. I call that being conceited... assuming that every man that talks to you is trying to get into your pants because you're THAT special...
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Thats what I am saying, and even then when a man makes what could be considered a "move" or a polite date request its like "oh my gosh, it was so weird, he asked me out to dinner" And I am not talking like some weird situation like a 50 yr old guy asking out a 20 yr old or something, if the 50 yr old is dumb (or ballsy) enough to do that you really cant have good expectations, not that I blame them for trying, but I am talking like similar ages, looks, etc....
And then it seems more and more you dont even get polite reactions, or the even the dignity of a "no" what they do is just ignore you like "he will go away" or "I did answer I ignored you" Like seriously? fuck you already, who the hell do you think you are?
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"And I am not talking like some weird situation like a 50 yr old guy asking out a 20 yr old or something, if the 50 yr old is dumb (or ballsy) enough to do that you really cant have good expectations"
Oh. Because I really do find that weird.
I respect persistence, but when I say that I am not interested, that means I am not interested yet I do appreciate the compliment. Call me conceited, but when a man asks me out or expresses interest in me, from my perspective, it's a compliment.
But if he just will not stop, that gets annoying. But that goes for any area in communication.
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Yeh I find the age difference really weird as well. I mean hey go for it I guess, you never know, but you can kinda hedge your bets that the girl is gonna blow you off AND think you are perverted for trying. Especially if you arent a good looking 50 and the 20 yr old is a good looking 20.
At least you respect it as a compliment and dont run away at persistence. I wouldnt even bother with persistence, part of it would be ego, like yeh okay you arent interested? Thats fine BUT I certainly aint gonna bother again. But a bigger part of me is just afraid of looking like a creepy persistant weirdo, like the girl is gonna be like "Leave me alone you psycho!"
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Yeah, to be honest, when a guy keeps bothering me with his advances (following me, constantly interrupting conversation between myself and my other friends, especially when I am doing other things) and I have already made it clear that I am not interested (at this point, all I should have to say is "sorry, I have a husband") then I do start to think he might have something wrong with him.
At which point I am more concerned for my safety if anything. Then it gets awkward. I had to go to school in my security uniform the other day and some guy (he was cute) asked me for a strip search and was going to let me... and I tried to be as non-awkward as possible but uh... yeah that gets awkward. Especially since he has seen me with my husband.
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And those are the weird ones.
I mean a strip search?? Talk about lame. Would it have worked if you were single?