Of course, but it's not that simple. You don't always need a kind, giving relationship to benefit both people. Some people prefer a relationship which emphasizes individualism and allows them to grow as individuals while still caring for each other when it suits them. That can still be mutually beneficial. Some other people enjoy drama. They continually put themselves out there so they can experience the emotional highs and lows of a fleeting relationship, because it's fun to ride that rollercoaster. There are more reasons people may appear to deviate from the give-and-take model, but you get the idea.
My point is that mutually beneficial is a hell of a lot more complicated than bare give and take. Bare give and take is important in most healthy long-term relationships, but you have to overlay that model with an account of everyone's unique set of neurotic impulses to understand how a relationship works. It requires using your imagination.
Why are most of the ladies into dumb guys?
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Of course, but it's not that simple. You don't always need a kind, giving relationship to benefit both people. Some people prefer a relationship which emphasizes individualism and allows them to grow as individuals while still caring for each other when it suits them. That can still be mutually beneficial. Some other people enjoy drama. They continually put themselves out there so they can experience the emotional highs and lows of a fleeting relationship, because it's fun to ride that rollercoaster. There are more reasons people may appear to deviate from the give-and-take model, but you get the idea.
My point is that mutually beneficial is a hell of a lot more complicated than bare give and take. Bare give and take is important in most healthy long-term relationships, but you have to overlay that model with an account of everyone's unique set of neurotic impulses to understand how a relationship works. It requires using your imagination.