Try to have more fun. You seem quite uptight. It's okay to skirt near the edge of boundaries in the name of flirty fun, so long as you remain sensitive to where the line is and understand the importance of backing off rather than making anyone uncomfortable.
Also, try to be less cynical. This post really seems like sour grapes. Calling other guys "morons" and "idiots" makes it sound like you have a serious superiority complex and an inability to see the good in other people.
Finally, you seem convinced that you're different from the guys who chase girls "for their own gain". But that's what relationships are. You don't date someone for their benefit; you date someone because it's what you want to do. Maybe I'm reading too far into it, but that doesn't sound like something a person with high self-esteem would think.
I believe a healthy relationship should benefit both of the people involved. If one is a parasite over to the other, then why be with them in the first place?
Of course, but it's not that simple. You don't always need a kind, giving relationship to benefit both people. Some people prefer a relationship which emphasizes individualism and allows them to grow as individuals while still caring for each other when it suits them. That can still be mutually beneficial. Some other people enjoy drama. They continually put themselves out there so they can experience the emotional highs and lows of a fleeting relationship, because it's fun to ride that rollercoaster. There are more reasons people may appear to deviate from the give-and-take model, but you get the idea.
My point is that mutually beneficial is a hell of a lot more complicated than bare give and take. Bare give and take is important in most healthy long-term relationships, but you have to overlay that model with an account of everyone's unique set of neurotic impulses to understand how a relationship works. It requires using your imagination.
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Try to have more fun. You seem quite uptight. It's okay to skirt near the edge of boundaries in the name of flirty fun, so long as you remain sensitive to where the line is and understand the importance of backing off rather than making anyone uncomfortable.
Also, try to be less cynical. This post really seems like sour grapes. Calling other guys "morons" and "idiots" makes it sound like you have a serious superiority complex and an inability to see the good in other people.
Finally, you seem convinced that you're different from the guys who chase girls "for their own gain". But that's what relationships are. You don't date someone for their benefit; you date someone because it's what you want to do. Maybe I'm reading too far into it, but that doesn't sound like something a person with high self-esteem would think.
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Of course, but it's not that simple. You don't always need a kind, giving relationship to benefit both people. Some people prefer a relationship which emphasizes individualism and allows them to grow as individuals while still caring for each other when it suits them. That can still be mutually beneficial. Some other people enjoy drama. They continually put themselves out there so they can experience the emotional highs and lows of a fleeting relationship, because it's fun to ride that rollercoaster. There are more reasons people may appear to deviate from the give-and-take model, but you get the idea.
My point is that mutually beneficial is a hell of a lot more complicated than bare give and take. Bare give and take is important in most healthy long-term relationships, but you have to overlay that model with an account of everyone's unique set of neurotic impulses to understand how a relationship works. It requires using your imagination.