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Because of the myths of rape, males are considered either "lucky " or the whole thing is a joke when the assault is reported. But women are treated as victims
.And the assailant is sent to prison for years. Should males be looked at as victims?
I have an example of this,
Danny brown is one of my favorite alternative hip hop artists.
When he was in a crowd at a gig a female member of the crowd undid his trousers and started giving him head, mid song, with hip hop artists there is usually a lit of bravado so he backed away a little but when she moved closer and carried on he let it happen and even joked about it on Twitter with Kendrick Lamar.
But someone supporting him in the tour said in an interview that he wasextremely. Uncomfortable with it but didn't want to push her away and felt pressured, surley if it was a woman on stage and that happened there would be uproar and someonewould be charged with sexual assault but because hhe's a male hip hop artist, no one cared
It's not given as much awareness due to cultural stigmas surrounding male rape. It's a sexist double standard (perpetuated in patriarchal societies) and it needs to stop.
Men might not be raped as often as women are, but it's not a competition in suffering, so it should have an equal amount of attention and awareness brought to it. Victims of sexual violence, regardless of their gender, should never be ignored.
Change begins with education.
Because some people are fucking idiots, I suppose. I do think sexual violence against men and boys is an issue that needs a lot more of the right kind of attention. I think sexual violence against women and girls needs a lot of attention as well, but for men especially it's ignored far too much.
Relating to kingofcarrotflowers' comment... most of the attention I see it getting is when a male celebrity is involved, and it's usually a lot of people calling the woman a "slut" or a "whore" which is focusing completely on the wrong part of the incident. Demonise the woman because of the crime she committed, not because she's a "slut".
I think male and female victims of child molestation are treated equally. Adults are a little different. But adults also lie a lot more. I've personally seen my friends imply they were taken advantage of by women just because they were embarrassed that they slept with a fat/ugly/nasty girl.
It's the society we live in, filled with double standards where people just outright deny males also suffer from these issues, or admit they happen yet don't make as much a fuss about it.
This type of thing also happens with domestic violence. Despite studies saying half of the victims are male, I am yet to see a domestic violence video or poster to tell women to stop hitting and abusing men.
What irritates me primarily about all this is that while these victims are being ignored, there are still those trying to say that "women" that are victims of violence are being ignored.
Sick world.
Really? I was at the laundromat the other day and I saw a flier for a local violence help agency and it listed off things like does your partner do x,y, or z? If so you are being abused! It implied nothing about your or your partners gender. Look harder, I guess. Btw you didn't respond on that thing about prison rape.
Well, that's rare, from my observations atleast. When I see anti-domestic violence subjects, it tends to heavily focus on the female victim and male perpetrator aspect. Not going to say "all" of them are, but you get the picture.
As for the prison rape thing, I know. I started typing out, however I'm not too motivated to type out large walls of text lately (awkward moment in life), and I knew it would require it, not to mention looking up your points to see if they were valid.
It's the conception that men are sexually and physically dominant and by that notion, should be able to take control of a sexual/physical situation. In addition, men are considered to be mentally and physically tougher (take it like a man) so they don't get the sympathy for the emotional trauma like females do. Add that to the idea that female bodies are more sacred and exclusive than male bodies are (which ties into the promiscuous men being studs while women are sluts) and you pretty much have an entire sociological recipe for the sexual shaming of males.
I see it as dog shit because I see sexual predators all the same, regardless of their preference of victims - sick as fuck and deserving of the harshest punishments simply because if someone violated me, I would want my share of justice.
I'd hope they would be, but perhaps they report less often. All rape victims - regardless of gender - don't report rape as often as it happens.
If males report less often as a ratio, it doesn't mean we don't help. Quite the opposite. It means we need to help male victims more.
But if the ratios are sequestering the fact that many more women are raped than men are (not as a ratio but actual women), can we please help these real people who aren't ratios, but real people who were raped?
Please?
A lot of male rape happens in prison, so there's not as much sympathy.
Also, the people who talk the most about rape are left-wing feminists who don't really care about men. Female rape statistics give them leverage and moral authority in debates, and bringing up male rape throws a monkey wrench into it.
And then there's the delusion that men always want sex from anyone who will give it (i.e., a boner is consent, even though female arousal isn't).
i just saw a post from buzzfeed and it was a compilation of "25 Male Survivors Of Sexual Assault Quoting The People Who Attacked Them"
"From Grace Brown’s Project Unbreakable, an online platform that strives to “increase awareness of the issues surrounding sexual assault.”
everyone should look that up. i'm not going to post a link because every time i do my post disappears