Why are black fathers so often absent?
Why are black fathers so often absent?
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Anonnet
Why does this have so many upvotes? How is being a deadbeat dad GENETIC?
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kelili
This should read as Black american fathers. As a Black person living outside the USA I do not observe this phenomenom in my country. Yes, there are single mothers and single fathers but it's not as described in this post. And I do not think that in other countries that are mostly Black this is actually true.
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JellyBeanBandit
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Clunk42
The dominating black culture is one that scoffs at family. In the seventies, some people saw the early onsets of this and tried to stop it (The Four Tops' "Keeper of the Castle" is an example of such an attempt), but they failed.
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jethro
Because they are already with another woman. Or else the one that they knocked up was the the "one on the side".
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darefu
Because there are a slew of women spreading their legs for guys in general without caring what type of person they are really with.
It's all about the sex and the here and now. Person gets pregnant and he moves on. I know a woman that has a kid with a father like that and she actually knows two other women that he has kids with. He has no job and is a user, they each take him back anytime he comes knocking. The only thing I can figure out is he does dabble in the drug world and I think he provides them free drugs while he's with them.
A couple others I know treat sex like a game. They sleep with just about anybody they date, from first date on, sometimes dating multiple people during the same period. They keep and brag about body count. No guy is going to stick around with a person like that when they come up pregnant. If they do, it lasts about 2 years then either he or she is looking for something new and different.
Ladies if you are going to give it away for free and be easy, you are going to find plenty of takers. Don't expect them to stick around if you get pregnant. Birth control is up to you. I would say it's both people's responsibility, but who is pregnant, who has a child to take care of, who has a hard time finding more future potential partners if you have a child or two.
The bad thing is a lot of the time even the mother see's the child as a burden especially 2 or 3 years down the road. The person that really suffers is the child.
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Ligeia
It takes two to have sex? Maybe put partial blame on fathers who abandon their children?
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darefu
I think if you read my comment, you'll see I think most guys are dirt bags that will screw anything and take what they can get.
My point they're not the ones stuck with raising the child. The question was why the father's aren't there. Answer: because they are dirt bags and the women allow it.
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sweetone89
Today, I'd say fathers in general are more absent.
Mostly due to irresponsibility.Another thing about black fathers, though, their absences could be due to incarceration or death at the hands of police.
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1WeirdGuy
Its in their culture. Its totally seen as normal to be a deadbeat dad in black culture. Its even lowkey seen as a right of passage to have atleast one "baby momma"
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Anonnet
No, it's not in their culture or a right of passage. Wow. There aren't any kids that grow up in a single-parent home and think "I want to be just like the dad I've never seen."
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1WeirdGuy
Last I checked 75% grow up without a dad. Wouldn't be surprised if its even gone up since that was thr trend. Ive seen it myself. My work is like 80% black I have good friends who are black and they all left their kids. Every one of them.
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Anonnet
Did some research on this, and that's not the right statistic. That's referring to a different percentage pointing to births to "unmarried mothers", which is not the same thing (seriously, there's a lot of "news" sites treating them the same). In reference to "growing up without a dad", one statistic I found on datacenter points to the single-parent children rate among blacks being 64% in 2019, which is the highest number I could find. Most of the numbers I see on other websites that aren't referring to the "unmarried mothers" statistic are below 50%, since "not with both parents" doesn't necessarily mean "single parent" (living with relatives, etc).
Not that it's a great, peachy situation, but come on. If you work with a lot of shitty people, that's fine, I'm going to assume that's where you got the "right of passage" line, but you should get your facts straight.
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1WeirdGuy
You said it yourself that I work with a lot of shitty people. If being a deadbeat father makes you a shitty person (i believe it does) and according to your own number the majority of them grow up without a dad you could say that the majority of them are shitty people and perhaps thats why they are deadbeat dads.
Now if you want I can show you even better statistics on the outcomes of kids who grow up without fathers. And living with extra relatives doesnt exactly help those numbers.
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Anonnet
No, that's now how it works, either. Many men aren't fathers (something like 40%, maybe higher, according to a shallow internet search); you can't jump to a "the majority of black men are shitty people" conclusion. Remember, being born into a single-parent household isn't the same as there being a deadbeat dad in the relationship, and not all deadbeat parents are men.
Go ahead and show me the statistics anyway, though, I can tell you want to.
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