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I tried everything and all avenues yet here I am sitting at home after work, on my dam phone questioning why I am gay and still single after trying Everything :/
Ugh
there are many old people who are single and have never found anyone, think about that, yet they accepted it and lived a life of peace and harmony, it was a happy life and they made money for themselves and a life, and they had many close friends
No offense but, do you give off a bitter, sad, clingy, or desperate vibe? I don't know how I learned this(probably from the many people I met with online), but I've learned to sense when a guy or gal is like this within the first ten seconds. When I stayed on the date, I was usually proved right and I'd never call this person again. Dealing with baggage is the worst.
Na in fact I am super cautious not to be clingy as I know how epidemically that's a known factor. Also, my sis who's younger than me found someone and he is super clingy. Wants to see her every 2 days literally and she doesn't find that a problem ? So why would I be an issue even if I were Nd into someone, you think they would equally want to see me as much as I with them, no?
Exactly right! If you seem super desperate and depressed, people are going to feel awkward and unconfortable around you. If you bring so much negativity to the table, people will leave. When you first meet someone, you should be all smiles and act as nice and carefree as possible.
Have you tried walking into a coffee shop and trying to become just friends?
This is probably not what you want to hear, but sometimes it really just takes time. Also, in my experience, the best things in life have always come when I've least expected them and wasn't searching so hard, as weird as that seems.
The most important thing though, is to learn how to be happy with yourself before looking for someone else. You will never be happy with another person if you can't be happy with yourself. It doesn't sound like you're there at this point, and people tend to pick up on that.
I know it sounds cliche, but you will find someone when the time is right. For now, focus on yourself and your life, and try to meet other people with no huge expectations, maybe just to expand your circle at first. You may meet someone you like or you may not, but by not setting any high expectations, you won't be disappointed and frustrated.
Being single at 25 is not a bad thing and it doesn't mean you'll always be single. You're still young and have plenty of time!
I get where you are coming from(minus the gay thing) I have had long periods of time when I was single I'm in a relationship now but it took a long ass time to find her. Just keep looking and stay positive bro it's not impossible.