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I'm a girl, and I'm really obsessive about my best friend. I get really jealous and hurt whenever she speaks to other people, and we're always falling out because of it. She tells me that she really likes me and to stop being stupid, but am I really being paranoid???
It's probably normal and it happens to many people. But in order to keep the friendship you need to make a special effort not to show it. By making friends with the rest of the crowd and other friends of friends, u may be able to feel a little less threatened and more at ease which will help u in keeping the friendship.
I used to have two friends that fought over me, both of them girls and me one as well. I thought it was bizarre. Both also got jealous of my boyfriend.
One of them turned out to be bisexual.
Not saying that you're bisexual mind you. Just giving my example.
I would say this. Chill. Try talking to the people she's talking to. If you both make a friend together maybe you won't feel so stressed and jealous because you'll have another person to focus your attention on.
your jealousy represents your fear of loneliness
this fear tries to control and cage the other person, and that very action will push them away instead
in order to reclaim your emotional independence (which btw is the antidote to loneliness), you need to focus on YOU, be your own best friend, enjoy your own company more than that of your friend, and that other friend will be free, and so will you, and in that mutual freedom, you will have a friendship without jealousy
i agre. also try to go off on your own then you get thet way. it tends to help.
your insecure, you feel Know one else will like you.
She's your friend, you don't own her, and she is free to talk to who ever, when ever she likes, you have to come to terms with this, as it will rule your life if you let it.
If she really likes you she will keep being friends with you, if she doesn't she'll tell you to stay away from her. I think you are still best friends now so she likes you more than her other friends. So you shouldn't be jealous and she might get angry with you if you keep acting like that and that might change her toughts about you so I think you should stop and give her a little space. And getting some new close friends might help your situation.
You're kind of being unreasonable. It would be more understandable if she got a new best friend she liked more than you, but if she really likes or loves you a lot, that probably won't happen.
I once had a friend like you, but we're not friends anymore. The friendship was just too exhausting to deal with. If you want to keep this person as a friend, I suggest you stop being so self-absorbed and let her do her own thing. The harder you squeeze, the more it slips away.
I don't know you, but it sounds like you have romantic feelings for this person.
Maybe you secretly fancy her or she is your number one inspiration or something because you really look up to her
This is wierd. My best friend who is a girl has a boyfriend, but is apparently jealous in the same way (I'm a guy). She hates it when I talk to girls. She just likes to be my No.1.
So theres a similar situation, but for two people of the same sex? That's less normal. I doubt one day she's going to end the friendship because you get jealous, but arguing is never fun.
Try not to give her a hard time. If she seems to be favouring another friend over you, just distance yourself and see if she cares. There's little you can do. Arguing doesnt work though.