Why act like this?

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So me n the ex finally broke up.. but over the stupidest thing you could think of.. I had given him my card to he could get fuel n stuff as he had to go to work and had no money (he stupidly spent it all).. well I gave him my pin code (the correct one) and apparently it didnt work for him.. I then told him to try another pin or pay wave it (I used my card today with the same pincodr I gave him the first time and it worked!).. he cracked the biggest shits youd ever seen saying that he hated me (we have had troubles in the past.. he gets angry over the simplists things..) and on top of that he has been calling me the WORSRT names because he fked up.. he told me to pack and get out of his life in the harshest way.. I had planned on moving out anyway as soon as I had a job/by next fortnight (next week) but I've been unsuccessfull with the rental places.. last night I packed up my clothes and got the hell out of there (he gave back my card thankfully) and today I packed the rest of my gear up and now i am in a friends shed sleeping in my swag because he is having his tantrums..

This is the same guy who has been verbally abusing me and uses ice (whether or not he still does I dont know)

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  • Boojum
    4 years ago

    It sounds like you're not in the best situation - being homeless always sucks - but it also sounds like, all things considered, you're better off where you are now than where you were.

    If you're the woman who has regularly posted about your toxic relationship with your fucked up boyfriend, then give yourself a pat on the back for finally making the move.

    Now the only question is whether, after a few days have passed and you've had the chance to justify and excuse his behaviour, you'll decide that you still love him and he deserves another chance, so you return to the asshole and the whole pathetic cycle starts up again.

    Oh, and BTW, the thing with the card was not "the stupidest thing you could think of" to break up over. There are much more trivial things that can trigger a breakup, but usually the silly little thing is just the proverbial straw that breaks the camel's back.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      I'm gonna update my post as I thought I added it but he told me to pack and get out of his life in the harshest way.. I had planned on moving out anyway as soon as I had a job/by next fortnight (next week) but I've been unsuccessfull with the rental places.. but yea I will be better off as he has been the biggest jackass to me for a while now..

      I have given him a second chance after he cheated on me and didnt tell me for a month until I looked through his old phone.. so no I dont reckon I'm gonna go back to that asshole

      And I realize this.. I'm not perfect either and I know I screw things up sometimes.. I'm guessing it just built up and he snapped.. I had tried explaining myself by telling him I have depression but he never believed me.. I tried to reason with him and talk to him but he always snapped and retorted back at me the things I've said which made me feel worse.. so things got worse between us..

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        You are better off without this guy!

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        • 19sammi91
          4 years ago

          As much as I agree with you in the back if my head (and had been thinking bout it last night) I just wished it didnt emd like this...

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          • Ellenna
            4 years ago

            There's no way that relationship could've ended in a civilized respectful way: focus on being glad it's over, the alternative would've been more and more of the same bullshit in your life.

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            • 19sammi91
              4 years ago

              Agreed.. I've already started to plan what I need (and already bought stuff) for the future.. I'm just glad I have a friend here that is on my side and is letting me stay at her place for the time being..

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  • litelander8
    4 years ago

    You picked up your "gear" meaning drugs or belongings? What is swag?

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      Lol and lol... spose it must be Australian slang??
      When I say gear I mean all my stuff.. clothes, all my cooking stuff, paint and craft stuff.. all that..
      And a swag is something you sleep in in a tent sorta thing.. it's more or less just bit of mattress or foam that has a canvas zip up cover that you can roll up and you can take it camping

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      • RoseIsabella
        4 years ago

        If my memory serves me well, you are 19, or 20 years old, correct?

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        • 19sammi91
          4 years ago

          But yea.. its finally happen and I'm currently numb but surprisingly "ok" about it all for some odd reason...

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            I hope you continue to be okay about this breakup.

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            • 19sammi91
              4 years ago

              Yea so do I... I've forgotten 3 things so far.. one I'm gonna leave there cause it's way too big but I have to ask where one is as it's in the bus hes been driving around constantly :/ great.. sigh

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        • 19sammi91
          4 years ago

          28 lol

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          • RoseIsabella
            4 years ago

            So you're not the girl with the verbally abusive guy who's a heroin addict that lives off his parents?

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            • 19sammi91
              4 years ago

              He is verbally abusive and hes addicted to ice and it's his dad.. so your not too far off.... ???

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  • Tealights
    4 years ago

    Glad you're out of there.

    How my abusive ex and I broke up wasn't pretty either. He was in the middle of yelling at me again over some video game nonsense (either Vindictus or APB). So in the heat of his yelling I was like, "Do you want to break up with me?" He hesitated and then agreed with that smug smirk. The sort of, "I'll break up with you for a week so you learn your lesson," sort of smile. I was like, "okay," and took that chance to disappeared from his life immediately. I tried breaking up with him before, but he owns guns and did that, "Imma shoot myself," shit. It's been 5 years since I escape that monster of a man.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      If you saw any of my other posts (I deleted them in case he went through my phone again..) I play Stardew Valley on my now deceased computer.. he cracked the shits bout that saying its childish even though I know a few adults that play it (including my bother who is 2 years older than me)
      My other deleted posts were bout him cracking the shits for no reason and his ice addiction..
      I'm sorta in a similar situation as your ex threatened to shoot himself.. he owes me a Samsung Tablet worth at $200 and I have access to his account but dont wanna take it from him as he could threaten me and my family with a machete he bought last week

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  • dimwitted
    4 years ago

    I've been married for longer than you've been alive and my spouse doesn't know my pin#. Least of all some druggie loser.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      And is why I withdrew the rest of my money in case he manages to get into my account or has kept my card details I'm which case i just thought I might get a new card/account...

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      Yea it's another regret for me.. I carry my card around with me now..

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  • TerriAngel
    4 years ago

    Best advise.
    Move, period.
    Get away from where you are.
    Break contacts and start over.
    Start clean, leave this behind.
    Easy to do, no.
    It never is.
    But it works if you make it work.
    Get your life together before you start dating again and never date a druggie or disrespectful man.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      I agree with you there.. it sorta suchs that I have to as I was/am bout to start a job soon.. and it would mean moving away from my gorgeous boy (my dog) :( I dont want to leave him with this dickhead but not sure if I really have much of a choice...

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  • bigbudchonga
    4 years ago

    Meth fucks with people's minds a lot. If he's using it then I wouldn't be surprised if it's down to that. How is he in the paranoia department?

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      Yup.. your not wrong.. I could handle him coming down off the fkn shit and while he was on it but it just got out of control..
      The paranoia crap may have stopped although he keeps digging into the crap (assuming you were referring to one of my deleted posts???).. it turned from paranoia to anger to "I am blaming everyone even my gf and her family" to "screw this someone's gonna get stabbed" hadnt heard much since then..

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  • Ellenna
    4 years ago

    It wasn't your card that broke you up, it was his bullying and you're well out of it.

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    • 19sammi91
      4 years ago

      As Boojum said above.. it's the straw that broke the camels back.. but yes you are right his ignorance is what led up to this situation

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