Who is more submissive during cunnilingus?

Was asking myself the same question. i'm pretty sure it's a new member

When you see the title of the topic and you are not interested in it, there is no need to open it. However, if you must open it and you have nothing to say to the topic, then you can refrain from similar empty comments. Just writing "what´s with this kind of questions lately" without giving your answer to the topic seems redundant.

I forgot to mention something which may be relevant to your first comment in my response to you. Although I agree that contextual factors play an important role in the perception of whose position is dominant or submissive during oral sex (which is most obvious in the context of BDSM), I have also something like "default" perception of the roles in non-BDSM situations. I mean, I tend to percieve the giver´s position as more submissive when it comes both to fellatio and cunnilingus. This perception doesn´t depend very much on who likes / wants /needs the activity more. For example, I wouldn´t percieve myself as more dominant during fellatio even if I wanted it more than the other person nor would I percieve the person giving me oral sex as more dominant even if he wanted to do it more than me in that situation. There are probably several factors why I tend to percieve it this way but it would be another story. All in all, I would say that this view is more theoretical than empirical - in real life, I tend to enjoy the pleasurable sensation above all and I don´t care if my position is dominant, submissive or whatever :)

Thanks for commenting. Your perspective is very interesting. You made a good point suggesting that one of the important factors in this regard is whose needs are primarily being satisfied during the act. It definitely makes a difference if it is the woman who wants to receive oral sex for her satisfaction and the man is doing it just to serve her or if the man wants to do it more and he makes his own way. I completely agree that the situation plays an important role here. However, I guess it´s far less clear in most cases which makes it more difficult to make the distinction between the roles when it comes to dominance and submission. I think that power dynamics in relationships may be quite complex. For example, if one of the partners wants or needs something which involves both partners much more than the other, it may push them into a submissive position because they are kind of dependent on their partner. Sexual freqency may be a good example - if partners are incompatible, it´s generally the partner with a higher libido who is in a "weeker" position. As for your suggestion related to the level of desire for oral sex, the decisive factor related to dominance / submission probably is if the person makes their own way manipulatively or does it assertively or kind of desperately asks their partner for oral sex.

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