Its not that any of these are more or less effective, there are 2 much larger issues to look at if any of that will have an effect.
Big issue number one:
Parents are under the strange impression that you can start setting rules and boundaries for their children "when they're a little older". This could be 3 or 10 or 16, but the point is, as early as infanthood parents need to be doing some form of discipline. Pro active is always better than reactive but not always possible. If you think you can let your kid rule the house and then suddenly expect them to listen to you after years of feeling they are in charge, you are sadly mistaken and face an uphill battle.
Enormous issue number two:
Parents will fail 100% of the time if they are not consistant with whatever form of discipline they choose to adhere to. Children first need to know what is expected of them, this is only fair. How will they know what is expected of them if sometimes breaking curfew isn't a big deal and other times they get in trouble? Likewise, how will you ever be taken seriously if whatever punishemnt is put in place, they are able to talk you out of? If it's no cell phone for a week, then no amount of screaming cursing or door slamming will get them their phone back.
***The problem isn't your child. The problem is you started trying to be view as the parent too late, and you aren't being consistant.***
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Its not that any of these are more or less effective, there are 2 much larger issues to look at if any of that will have an effect.
Big issue number one:
Parents are under the strange impression that you can start setting rules and boundaries for their children "when they're a little older". This could be 3 or 10 or 16, but the point is, as early as infanthood parents need to be doing some form of discipline. Pro active is always better than reactive but not always possible. If you think you can let your kid rule the house and then suddenly expect them to listen to you after years of feeling they are in charge, you are sadly mistaken and face an uphill battle.
Enormous issue number two:
Parents will fail 100% of the time if they are not consistant with whatever form of discipline they choose to adhere to. Children first need to know what is expected of them, this is only fair. How will they know what is expected of them if sometimes breaking curfew isn't a big deal and other times they get in trouble? Likewise, how will you ever be taken seriously if whatever punishemnt is put in place, they are able to talk you out of? If it's no cell phone for a week, then no amount of screaming cursing or door slamming will get them their phone back.
***The problem isn't your child. The problem is you started trying to be view as the parent too late, and you aren't being consistant.***