On the face of it, having had 200 one-night-stands by the age of 25 does suggest that there might be a problem; I'm sure it's well above the statistical average. But actually, even if the person waited until they were 18 to start having sex (which, given their interest in it, is probably unlikely), that works out to be an average of 29 hook-ups a year, and so roughly one every other week over that seven year period. Which, as far as I'm concerned, really isn't all that outrageous.
It seems to me that what's more significant than the number of sexual partners is the fact that there was never any emotional involvement with them, not even over a period of a few days or weeks. That could be due to various issues, some of which might be serious, and some of which are not.
I'm sure the other scenario is much closer to the statistical norm, and I don't think there's much more to be said about it.
As for which is "better", I don't see how that can be determined, since it all depends on the people. If they're as happy as anyone can be with their lives, they feel positive about themselves, and they're satisfied with the amount of sex they're getting and the quality of it, then it's good, and nobody has the right to tell them that it isn't.
Which is better?
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On the face of it, having had 200 one-night-stands by the age of 25 does suggest that there might be a problem; I'm sure it's well above the statistical average. But actually, even if the person waited until they were 18 to start having sex (which, given their interest in it, is probably unlikely), that works out to be an average of 29 hook-ups a year, and so roughly one every other week over that seven year period. Which, as far as I'm concerned, really isn't all that outrageous.
It seems to me that what's more significant than the number of sexual partners is the fact that there was never any emotional involvement with them, not even over a period of a few days or weeks. That could be due to various issues, some of which might be serious, and some of which are not.
I'm sure the other scenario is much closer to the statistical norm, and I don't think there's much more to be said about it.
As for which is "better", I don't see how that can be determined, since it all depends on the people. If they're as happy as anyone can be with their lives, they feel positive about themselves, and they're satisfied with the amount of sex they're getting and the quality of it, then it's good, and nobody has the right to tell them that it isn't.