When you're interested, do you..?
When you're very interested in being with someone you have strong romantic feelings for, how do you show it?
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It depends. Sometimes I don't really mind if they know or not. Crushes are just fun, and for me they linger painlessly if I decide not to stoke that fire. Sometimes I do decide not to stoke that fire, because crushes don't always translate into fulfilling relationships and usually it's quite easy to tell when that's the case. One of my close friends at the moment is a girl who I decided not to pursuit romantically because, even though I still think she's very beautiful, I'm conscious that that doesn't necessarily translate into a good romantic relationship. What did I get instead? A good, close friend.
I never knowingly send mixed signals or play hard to get. Doing that is a kind of manipulation; using indirect action to pull a person's strings to get them to do something you for you. Thinking back to my own history... I think I usually am quite transparent when I like someone, especially if I'm actually interested in a relationship. If I'm comfortable in someone's company, I'm not very good at concealing my feelings.
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None. I take it slowly, flirt and get to know them until sometimes happens. Feelings take time to develop, so I never tell somebody right away because that increases the chance of rejection. I don't send mixed signals or ignore them because who's attracted to that? Just be smooth, charming and progress naturally. If nothing happens then it wasn't meant to.
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I've never really been forward with my feelings. Consequently I have missed out on finding out if it could have worked out with two guys I the past. I used to regret it but now I've moved on.
I'm really lucky that my boyfriend is persistent, because I had no idea he was even flirting with me for a long time.
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Well first, you gotta get flowers. Go to a neighbor's house and grab some straight from the roots. Then there's food. You can ask that same neighbor for their leftovers (hide the flowers behind your back). Finally, destination. Head to a vacant parking lot after you've picked up your date on your little sisters bike and given her the flowers. Lay a blanket down in a parking spot and begin devouring the food. Be sure to eat quickly as you'll get more than your date. Tell her you have to use the restroom and then leave.
She'll call you angrily the next day. Ask her for a second date.Comment Hidden ( show )
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I'll ask her to go out and do something interesting and different. If we choose a weekend day, the zoo, horseback riding, mudding, kayaking, sailing, etc. or the circus, if it's in town. If an evening, a comedy club is just the ticket to show my interest without any pressure. What's better than laughing all the way through a date? If I'm interested, I ask; if she says no, then I can move on without wondering "what if". Doing nothing is just foolish, and self defeating.
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Do you mean you don't make it obvious when you like someone, or you do make it obvious? How do you show your interest in someone, assuming you might have felt that way towards anyone, other than yourself?
I created this poll so people could see how common it is, amongst IIN users, for the opposite sex to make apparent their feelings for someone they are very interested in romantically.
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Yes! As in, how often do you 'show' your interest when you feel interested in someone?
Your answer still seems a bit ambiguous to me, and maybe it is to others as well. Let me see if I understand: You only initiate "action" when you are certain your actions will be reciprocated? Contrarily, you don't take action if you're uncertain of their feelings toward you when you have feelings for them?
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