Swallow your jealousy and assumptions, because it'll only make things worse. Instead try this:
---- Explain to your boyfriend that you're having trouble becoming her friend, because you're not sure how to go about it (*seem sad/confused when you say this*). Let him give whatever flimsy advice or statement that's typically given (it's not hard, she's nice, etc). Then ask how did he become her friend and work with her so easily; because when you're alone with her, it's really awkward. ----
You see where I'm going with this right? You're asking, but in a different approach that's non-confrontational; so he feels he's giving you advice to help a new friendship, while you're just seeing if there's something there (and possibly gain a new friend if it all works out). From here you can ask innocent questions to get a general idea of how their night goes (i.e. What's the funniest thing that happened? I always feel awkward with her for some reason, what's your most awkward moment? etc). Now if he's hesitant to answer/vague despite how carefree you're being, or he's discouraging you from pursuing the friendship in someway, then there's something going on (it doesn't have to be cheating, but it shows he's holding something back).
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Swallow your jealousy and assumptions, because it'll only make things worse. Instead try this:
---- Explain to your boyfriend that you're having trouble becoming her friend, because you're not sure how to go about it (*seem sad/confused when you say this*). Let him give whatever flimsy advice or statement that's typically given (it's not hard, she's nice, etc). Then ask how did he become her friend and work with her so easily; because when you're alone with her, it's really awkward. ----
You see where I'm going with this right? You're asking, but in a different approach that's non-confrontational; so he feels he's giving you advice to help a new friendship, while you're just seeing if there's something there (and possibly gain a new friend if it all works out). From here you can ask innocent questions to get a general idea of how their night goes (i.e. What's the funniest thing that happened? I always feel awkward with her for some reason, what's your most awkward moment? etc). Now if he's hesitant to answer/vague despite how carefree you're being, or he's discouraging you from pursuing the friendship in someway, then there's something going on (it doesn't have to be cheating, but it shows he's holding something back).