I'm going to respond to this even though I see its an old post. I have diagnosed aspergers as well as adhd and schizoaffective disorder. It does effect my relationships with people a lot. I rarely will tell someone unless they ask me but I dont really try to hide it either. I do not think its a good thing too hide from your partner though because its not fair for either of you to not be open of what youre getting into. Why would you want to be with someone who judges you for who you are? Find someone who likes you for who you are instead of who you pretend to be.
Well, it's not like women will stop dating me one they know I have Asperger's. But it's inevitable that it changes their perception of me.
And I don't want that. Especially if the relationship is still fresh, a girl who knows I have Asperger's might put everything in that context.
Most people who knew about my Asperger's before meeting me treat me like a full-blown autistic. The thing is, there are a lot of misconceptions about Asperger's. In my country, the media portrays people with Asperger's very poorly. As people who can't functon in everyday life and need constant support and pity in order to sustain.
But on the other hand... I lost a very good friend because I acted like a total dick to her. It wasn't on purpose of course. I had severe pains from my psychosomatic illness and started taking an antipsychotic that changed my personality for the worse.
I didn't tell her about it, though, because I didn't think she'd understand. But I was wrong. She noticed my personality change, and she asked me what was wrong, but I refused to tell her...
Oh well. Shoulda coulda woulda.
Opening up too soon or too late, I've made both these mistakes. I should really work on my timing, but I don't know when's the right time to share my intimate details with someone.
When should you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you have asperger's?
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I'm going to respond to this even though I see its an old post. I have diagnosed aspergers as well as adhd and schizoaffective disorder. It does effect my relationships with people a lot. I rarely will tell someone unless they ask me but I dont really try to hide it either. I do not think its a good thing too hide from your partner though because its not fair for either of you to not be open of what youre getting into. Why would you want to be with someone who judges you for who you are? Find someone who likes you for who you are instead of who you pretend to be.
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Well, it's not like women will stop dating me one they know I have Asperger's. But it's inevitable that it changes their perception of me.
And I don't want that. Especially if the relationship is still fresh, a girl who knows I have Asperger's might put everything in that context.
Most people who knew about my Asperger's before meeting me treat me like a full-blown autistic. The thing is, there are a lot of misconceptions about Asperger's. In my country, the media portrays people with Asperger's very poorly. As people who can't functon in everyday life and need constant support and pity in order to sustain.
But on the other hand... I lost a very good friend because I acted like a total dick to her. It wasn't on purpose of course. I had severe pains from my psychosomatic illness and started taking an antipsychotic that changed my personality for the worse.
I didn't tell her about it, though, because I didn't think she'd understand. But I was wrong. She noticed my personality change, and she asked me what was wrong, but I refused to tell her...
Oh well. Shoulda coulda woulda.
Opening up too soon or too late, I've made both these mistakes. I should really work on my timing, but I don't know when's the right time to share my intimate details with someone.