If it could ever be serious the person has to like you for ALL of you. Get it out in the open. I wouldn't be turned away from a girl just cause she has aspergers!
Yeah, but there are a lot of misconceptions bout my condition. I don't want someone to read it all and judge me based on those bogus articles. For example: "People with Asperger's don't have emotions and they don't like being hugged." (which is bullshit, for most people)
In the end, all people are different. If everyone knows I have asperger's, they'll treat me according to my label, instead of according to the person I really am.
Or you could explain to her when you told her that its all malarkey! That way she doesnt find out later and think you were lying to her the whole time.
Yeah, maybe... but I'm not really lying. If she asks something private, I'll just say something like "I'm sorry, that's private". For some reason, women think you stop having secrets for them after one month, but that's of course not the case.
I still haven't processed what happened myself. I don't want to talk about my emotional scarring just like that. I want to be a boyfriend for the girl I like. Someone she can depend on. Not some frail pathetic creature she needs to protect from "the big bad world".
It's all a person to person basis. I can give you my opinion, but I have never been through what you have so I can't promise what I say is the correct thing, especially because I don't know your entire story. Tell her when it feels right, and if she is right for you it wont be a problem!
When should you tell your boyfriend/girlfriend you have asperger's?
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If it could ever be serious the person has to like you for ALL of you. Get it out in the open. I wouldn't be turned away from a girl just cause she has aspergers!
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Yeah, but there are a lot of misconceptions bout my condition. I don't want someone to read it all and judge me based on those bogus articles. For example: "People with Asperger's don't have emotions and they don't like being hugged." (which is bullshit, for most people)
In the end, all people are different. If everyone knows I have asperger's, they'll treat me according to my label, instead of according to the person I really am.
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Or you could explain to her when you told her that its all malarkey! That way she doesnt find out later and think you were lying to her the whole time.
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Yeah, maybe... but I'm not really lying. If she asks something private, I'll just say something like "I'm sorry, that's private". For some reason, women think you stop having secrets for them after one month, but that's of course not the case.
I still haven't processed what happened myself. I don't want to talk about my emotional scarring just like that. I want to be a boyfriend for the girl I like. Someone she can depend on. Not some frail pathetic creature she needs to protect from "the big bad world".
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It's all a person to person basis. I can give you my opinion, but I have never been through what you have so I can't promise what I say is the correct thing, especially because I don't know your entire story. Tell her when it feels right, and if she is right for you it wont be a problem!