When i look at cute clothing, i start crying..

dont let these shills and professional advert people git in yalls head and convince you that you need this shit

its a forma corporate brainwarshin

but yeah i grew up pretty poor and i know how much it sucks

I feel the same, but I know that fashion is a very deep worm hole. So I just acknowledge that it's not a priority in my life at the moment and besides, there are still outfits that you can make cute even with a budget. Things like instead of wearing a shirt normally, tuck it into your jeans etc.

If it really affects you, I would say treat yourself to some nice accessories that are versatile enough to work with a lot of outfits. Sometimes, it really adds up.

a few years ago was struggling financially and saw this really nice dress in a store which I couldn't afford but really wanted went to the stores toilets and cried for 10 mins

Yeah, we all feel sad when we find something cool that we can't have, but with clothes, it isn't too far away. A really good outfit from a good store could cost over 100$, but there are ways around it. I'm planning on saving up to get some cool clothes, not much, but enough to have something cool to wear in public, and if you just set aside a bit of money at a time, you could at least get something. Also, thrift stores can be good if you are willing to take a lot of time to find what you're looking for. Pretty much, don't go straight for being sad you can't afford designer clothes, because if you slow down and look at it, you can find some ok stuff.

cute especially if youre a guy
anyway no, i am not that material

You can get some pretty nice used clothes around. I myself don't care about brands or crap like that. I mainly rock a pair of board shorts and a shirt with some narly skulls on it or some shit. But I'm a dude so I don't understand ladies

A few questions I think would be beneficial to ask yourself on this: Why do you feel you would never be able to afford these things?, (relating to the first question) Do you have any marketable skills, and/or are there any you would desire to learn?, and have you ever tried to make clothes similar to those you want to buy?

I understand that learning a new skill can be hard, and it seems you would need so much stuff to even begin making your own clothes, but you can make your own mannequin from just duct tape, and it will very closely resemble your own body. Sewing by hand takes a lot of time to perfect, but you can make some truly unique clothing in this way. It is possible to even set up a store on Etsy and sell the clothing you've created, possibly leading to your own online business. The best part of that is that your fashion sense is your own, and you can dress however you like.

There is a book by Dave Ramsey titled "Total Money Makeover" in which he quotes,"Live like no one else, so later, you can live like no one else.". Simply put, it means that sometimes you need to go about things in a smarter, possibly more difficult way now to lead the life you've imagined for yourself. Rent a movie instead of going to the theater. Ride a bike with a basket to the supermarket instead of spending money on gas or public transportation. Find less expensive ways to do the things that you want now to save money to invest in the future you want.

Regardless of what you choose, I know that with determination, hard work, and the ability to ask for help when necessary you will accomplish whatever you put your mind to.

Thank you for your time.

Nope. I don't have a clue what you are feeling mate. Sounds like something you just need to get over.