When did you know you liked the same sex?

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This is a poll for gay/lesbian/bisexual people. When did you actually figure out that you were different? That you liked the same sex? If your journey to realization spans over many years, write about it in the comments.

I first thought that I might 'like' other girls in a different way than they 'liked' me when I was about 10 years old. By the time I was 14 I had fully realized my sexuality.

1-5 years old	24
6-10 ...	51
11-13 ..	94
14-16 .	84
17-19	42
20-22	10
23-25	9
26-28	7
29-31	6
32+	12

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Devyn

11 years ago

I liked boys in a different way since I was very young, as young as five perhaps. Obviously I didn't identify this for what it was until much later, I think was around twelve when I worked it out. The human body delays growth for a "childhood" to occur between the ages of about 4 and 11 in order to allow for time to teach the child. The cut off point is actually just after that start of puberty so "children" are technically just at the start of puberty for many years before it gets going and thus often have a slight sense of sexual attraction. Hence people can identify their sexuality from such a young age.

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- jc25
  
  11 years ago
  
  Interesting. So when I was 6 or 7 and saw a hot woman, ah I guess so it makes sense. But it took you to 12 to like boys? I was 10 and liked girls.
  
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VioletTrees

11 years ago

About 10. I had a huge crush on Ariel from The Little Mermaid when I was little, though, so I don't know why it took me so long.

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- anti-hero
  
  11 years ago
  
  She is hot.
  
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  - Terence_the_viking
    
    11 years ago
    
    i believe she is underage aswell
    
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    - VioletTrees
      
      11 years ago
      
      I was like 3. Also, she's 16 in the movie. That's legal where I live.
      
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      - jc25
        
        11 years ago
        
        Wow, I did not remember that. I like Belle.
        
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        cokopoof
        
        10 years ago
        
        Belle is my favorite! Sorry but ariel comes 2nd lol
        
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    - anti-hero
      
      11 years ago
      
      She is also a drawing, so who cares?
      
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      - VioletTrees
        
        11 years ago
        
        The voice actress was 28, apparently.
        
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        anti-hero
        
        11 years ago
        
        Neat.
        
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      - Terence_the_viking
        
        11 years ago
        
        that makes it even worse
        
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        anti-hero
        
        11 years ago
        
        How I masturbate is none of your concern sir/madame.
        
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- mrsxsalvatore
  
  11 years ago
  
  That is the funniest thing I have heard all day. Ariel? Haha :D
  
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TrunksHitachi

8 years ago

At 9

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Pies-are-awesome-1234

11 years ago

It's awkward, 11-13 is winning, lollll

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Avant-Garde

11 years ago

I either nine or eleven when I first had a crush on another female and I was very confused and frightened about it. Yet, long before that I had my first kiss with another female friend when I was about 6. I enjoyed it, but I wasn't really sure what to think about the situation.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  How did you get into the situation of kissing another girl when you were 6 ?
  
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  - Avant-Garde
    
    11 years ago
    
    Hmm, let me think...
    
    I think I was having a play-date with my friend who was also 6. I believe on this occasion we were in her mother's car en route to our destination. There was a plaid blanket and my friend and I got underneath it. She asked if I knew how french kiss and I said "No." So, she explained it to me. We did it and mixed it up with regular kissing. I remember her telling me to keep it a secret, but the part that really baffles me is how her mother didn't know what we were doing. Yes, we had the blanket psychically covering us, but there's no mistaking the sound of kissing! Anyway, I remembering it being late and at some point her mother was driving me to my home. When, I got there I still had the bubbly sensation in me, but I was filled with huge amounts of guilt. I didn't understand what homosexuality was and I felt like I had committed a crime:/ We continued to kiss every now and then over the course of a few more years, but the feeling of guilt continued to follow me for years.
    
    Eventually, I discovered what my sexuality was and I stopped feeling guilty. Also, when I look back on it it really wasn't good. "Good" as in there was nothing great about it. The kissing was absolutely horrible, but when you're young you often fail to notice things like that.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      11 years ago
      
      Did you ever find out if the other girl was a lesbian or bisexual?
      
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      - Avant-Garde
        
        11 years ago
        
        I don't think she was either. I remember bringing it up to her once and she claimed that she didn't know what I was talking about... The last few times I saw her, she seemed to have a strong interest in boys.
        
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hithereguy

11 years ago

I had butterflies in the stomach feelings for both genders in kindergarten which is as far back as I can remember feelings like that. Sexual attraction started at ten and I had a huge thing for my friend Micheal.

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Terence_the_viking

11 years ago

I like watching lesbians. Does that count?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  If you are a man, then no. That's a completely different topic. But every comment counts, haha :)
  
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megawriter

11 years ago

I often wonder if it's normal that I didn't realize that I am attracted to women until I was around 26. I hear so many stories about people saying they knew since childhood and I am just now realizing it. Looking back though, I can point out the girls I had crushes on growing up; I just didn't know what it was!

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BlueAlice

11 years ago

I first realised properly I was gay after developing a mega-crush on a "normal" and pretty girl in my year at 12, but I was weirdly attracted to the Medusa on the box-art for Space Harrier II.

Then I spent a huge part of my teens fantasising about threesomes with The White Stripes and trying to make myself be interested in only one gender, before eventually discovering I liked both genders after having my first serious boyfriend in my early 20s

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insidious22

11 years ago

I knew since I was 6 or 7...... by 13 I knew I was gay

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cokopoof

11 years ago

I was obsessed with disney princesses when i was 5. I thought about my friend MArian in weird ways and occasionally wanted to kiss her.I had never liked guys but made up that i liked someone in 4th grade to seem normal. At 16 I finally realized that I liked girls when I got a high with a friend of mine and I asked her to kiss me. We started slow but than were very into it. It was a sort of "ah" moment. where everything just clicked.

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Silivrin1

11 years ago

I can't take part in this poll, but I wouldn't be surprised if it's around puberty for most people. It's when you start to realize and/or think properly about the kind of people that you are attracted to.

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dirtybirdy

11 years ago

Eleven

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WordWizard

11 years ago

What if I like the opposite sex? Why am I commenting on this. I either will have to release some personal information or let you all under the assumption I am gay. I will be laughing so hard for anyone who is reading this useless comment.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  11 years ago
  
  Because you secretly know, deep down in your heart, that you have feelings for the same sex. It's okay... come to the light :)
  
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  - WordWizard
    
    11 years ago
    
    Well the light is at the other end of the tunnel. I’m going into the steaming tunnel of fire and hot gay passion! Why do you think they call it flaming?
    
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[Old Memory]

11 years ago

Im not gay, but i voted anyway.

Sorry :/ lol

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