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This is a poll for gay/lesbian/bisexual people. When did you actually figure out that you were different? That you liked the same sex? If your journey to realization spans over many years, write about it in the comments.
I first thought that I might 'like' other girls in a different way than they 'liked' me when I was about 10 years old. By the time I was 14 I had fully realized my sexuality.
I liked boys in a different way since I was very young, as young as five perhaps. Obviously I didn't identify this for what it was until much later, I think was around twelve when I worked it out. The human body delays growth for a "childhood" to occur between the ages of about 4 and 11 in order to allow for time to teach the child. The cut off point is actually just after that start of puberty so "children" are technically just at the start of puberty for many years before it gets going and thus often have a slight sense of sexual attraction. Hence people can identify their sexuality from such a young age.
I either nine or eleven when I first had a crush on another female and I was very confused and frightened about it. Yet, long before that I had my first kiss with another female friend when I was about 6. I enjoyed it, but I wasn't really sure what to think about the situation.
Hmm, let me think...
I think I was having a play-date with my friend who was also 6. I believe on this occasion we were in her mother's car en route to our destination. There was a plaid blanket and my friend and I got underneath it. She asked if I knew how french kiss and I said "No." So, she explained it to me. We did it and mixed it up with regular kissing. I remember her telling me to keep it a secret, but the part that really baffles me is how her mother didn't know what we were doing. Yes, we had the blanket psychically covering us, but there's no mistaking the sound of kissing! Anyway, I remembering it being late and at some point her mother was driving me to my home. When, I got there I still had the bubbly sensation in me, but I was filled with huge amounts of guilt. I didn't understand what homosexuality was and I felt like I had committed a crime:/ We continued to kiss every now and then over the course of a few more years, but the feeling of guilt continued to follow me for years.
Eventually, I discovered what my sexuality was and I stopped feeling guilty. Also, when I look back on it it really wasn't good. "Good" as in there was nothing great about it. The kissing was absolutely horrible, but when you're young you often fail to notice things like that.
I often wonder if it's normal that I didn't realize that I am attracted to women until I was around 26. I hear so many stories about people saying they knew since childhood and I am just now realizing it. Looking back though, I can point out the girls I had crushes on growing up; I just didn't know what it was!
I first realised properly I was gay after developing a mega-crush on a "normal" and pretty girl in my year at 12, but I was weirdly attracted to the Medusa on the box-art for Space Harrier II.
Then I spent a huge part of my teens fantasising about threesomes with The White Stripes and trying to make myself be interested in only one gender, before eventually discovering I liked both genders after having my first serious boyfriend in my early 20s
I was obsessed with disney princesses when i was 5. I thought about my friend MArian in weird ways and occasionally wanted to kiss her.I had never liked guys but made up that i liked someone in 4th grade to seem normal. At 16 I finally realized that I liked girls when I got a high with a friend of mine and I asked her to kiss me. We started slow but than were very into it. It was a sort of "ah" moment. where everything just clicked.