What would you do if someone you ghosted confronted you

I hope to confront someone who ghosted me eventually. I saw them once since I was ghosted and they seemed fine. However, the ghosting has continued. I feel like I need to ask them point blank why was I ghosted? What would you do if you ghosted someone and they ran into you and asked this question?

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pretend you have never seen them before 7
fake my feelings and pretend that we are still friends 4
honestly tell them why they were ghosted 12
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  • litelander8

    I’m literally “ghosting” someone for the past week. Won’t leave me alone. It’s beginning to really bother me.

    Just leave them alone.

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  • SkullsNRoses

    I can’t tell you what I’d do as I’ve never ghosted someone. However I would actually advise that you don’t confront this person, they clearly don’t care about you and showing them how hurt you are will only stroke their ego make them feel they have power over you. If you see them in public just walk on by, you are nothing to them so make them think they are nothing to you. One day they will be.

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    • RoseIsabella

      Good response, I also think that sometimes people who are more introverted, and not good with confrontation tend to ghost more.

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  • I wouldn't confront them though. They ghosted you for a reason. You ever see what an animal can do when it's backed into a corner? Are you prepared for that outcome? Not only that but for what that other person is going to have to mentally go through when you confront them. You're probably not going to get some satisfying answer, you'll probably just get reasons to accept the ghosting and move on

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  • Wryladradofft

    I doubt confronting them would do either of you any good. If you need an explanation for why you were ghosted, I think the safest assumption is that they felt unhappy with their relationship with you and just didn't know how to end it "properly". Social and emotional ineptitude is much more common than deliberate malice

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  • LondonGoldman

    It depends on the situation. If I was cool with them before and they did it out of the blue I would probably resent them for it. I wouldnt mention it though. Id just pretend they did not exist.

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  • RoseIsabella

    I dunno, I might tell the person the truth, and say that I ghosted them, because I just didn't feel like we had anything in common, and didn't want to go through the drama of having to officially reject the person for whatever reason. Then I might tell them that I wish them all the best in their life journey, but to be truthful I just don't want to have anything to do with that person.

    I think people usually ghost others, because the person they are ghosting just can't take a hint.

    I can't really recall anyone I have ghosted off the top of my head, because I don't generally try to ghost people, but sometimes one does have to ghost a person. Some people are really high strung, don't handle rejection well, and are just generally hard to get away from so that would be a good reason to ghost someone. If a person is hard to get off the phone even if I tell them I have things to do, and really need to go I will probably feel the need to not take that person's phone calls anymore. If a person doesn't respect other people's boundaries they are practically asking to get ghosted.

    I know a woman that I used to talk to, and hang out with, but she can be embarrassing, and over the top so now I only text her back on rare occasion. I wish her well, but she basically just wore me out. I probably haven't actually spoken to her in over ten years. The last time I met up with this woman I brought another friend with me.

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  • Somenormie

    Firstly it would depend on how well I know that person, but I would say I'm sorry for even ghosting that person and do my best to listen to them and talk it out like a human being.

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  • Tommythecaty

    I don’t ghost people, I people the ghosts.

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  • BleedingPain

    Never ever ghost a person. I ghosted someone and they started stalking me on my social media platforms. Then I blocked him, but he started reaching out to my mother’s social media platforms so I immediately blocked him. Fingers crossed that he doesn't pop back up somewhere in the near future.

    If being honest doesn’t tip them that you dont wanna talk anymore, then police action may be necessary.

    Oh, its the other way around. My point still stands. Maybe they just didnt want to talk to you anymore but also not hurt your feelings, which inevitably make you feel worse.

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  • raisinbran

    Continue ghosting them in person.

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  • Most people I've cut contact with was out of mutual benefit, although usually other people seem to confuse my ignorance and desire to learn for malicious intent and sometimes I do asshole things if someone's an asshole to me, but then they play the "omg I have no idea what's going on but this happened" game which usually means there's a whole group of people now who have been strung together with manipulation to hate me

    I just saw the husband of someone I accepted had ghosted me. I know he only came there to see me, with his freshly cut hair. It took a second to recognize him, but I didn't pretend to not know him. I didn't sense any evil, although I feel like his presence was foreboding. I'm definitely capable of pretending to not know someone. If it happens again I probably would pretend to not know them. I can probably even make it obvious to anyone listening that they're acting irrationally. But if I don't get put in that position I'm happy with not thinking about anyone I've cut contact with

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  • a-curious-bunny

    I dont ghost people so nothing.

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  • bbrown95

    I agree with SkullsNRoses that you shouldn't confront this person, because it will only harm you and give them the satisfaction of knowing they still have an impact on you, which they don't deserve. I know it sucks when you don't have closure and someone does something like that, but the sooner you begin to move on and forget about them, the better. The way I see it, I believe things happen for a reason and if they aren't meant to be a part of your life, there's probably a good reason for it. Life is way too short to worry about people who don't care about you.

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  • mouldiwarp

    I wouldn’t ghost someone to begin with.

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  • DeletThis

    Probably rain blows upon em. If you’re ghosted there is usually a very good reason behind it. Take the hint.
    Out of your list - pretend I have never seen them, might be an even better form of revenge.

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  • Boojum

    There's no context provided to this question, but I wonder this:

    Why do you believe you have the right to know why someone doesn't want to have anything to do with you? It's their life, and they have the right to decide how they spend their limited time and energy. Do you believe you're entitled to respect or even undying devotion from everyone who ever comes into contact with someone as wonderful as yourself? Not a single person in the world is required to like you; no one has to listen to you; nobody must give you any of their time. Believing otherwise is likely to result in a lot of people ghosting you - both online and in real life - since nobody likes an entitled asshat.

    For whatever reason, the person decided they don't want to have anything more to do with you, and that's all you need to know. Generally speaking, I think that ghosting is a dick move, but maybe you're one of those people who just can't take a fucking hint. The fact that you're even considering confronting this person makes that entirely possible.

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  • Meowypowers

    I'd say peace bitch and be done with them

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  • ellnell

    Depends. If it were someone I barely knew/never met i'd likey just apologize and say I totally forgot to answer, tbh, and then be polite but short to display my disinterest in any further communication. I'm not great with direct confrontation unless it's someone i'm close with and someone i'm close with I wouldn't ghost in the first place.

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