No my parents passedawayalready idont have any siblings and my moms sisters like they are not here cause they havent talked to me for last 10 years.father of my kids come to take them to and.from daycare cause i pay him cause a nanny wouldbe even more.expensive. iwork in childcare during the day and i cant even behonest with doctors or therapists cause they would report this to cps. Ihate being with babies and cant even stand when they move or make noises. Father says im a bad mom. With no patience and i feel bad for not being like those loving moms out there but i hate kids
You pay the childrens father to look after them????
He's the shitty parent, not you. What sort of arsewipe gets paid to do their parental duties? Jesus.
Do you have any friends who could help you out? Colleagues? I understand your concerns about someone calling CPS on you. Sadly, it could happen. Some people are more concerned with bandaid solutions that addressing the actual problem. But if your children are actually at risk, then they may need to step in a support you in a way they see fit.
I get how hard it is. And I'm only a nanny, I don't have my own kids. Right now, I'm trying to get a break from having two kids shove cars in my face while screeching, "Look Mel, loooook!" and I could cheerfully slap them, if I didn't have the self control. And I have the luxury of going home to no kids. You don't. I feel for you.
Can their dad take them for a week? Without being paid for it, I mean. They're his goddamn kids, too.
Well hehad a joband i asked him to quit. Ihad a nanny and she was not taking good care pkus when they got sick daycare didnt want them so father quit his job and i hired him to do.this instead of a stranger so when kids get sick he keeps them and.i dont lose my job. Im trapped.
But I also see that if the roles were reversed, I doubt very much that you would be paid to be the stay at home parent.
But why even have them at daycare? If you're struggling for money and he's at home full time? It would save a lot. Daycare's expensive. Once again, if roles were reversed...
Ok, that's fair enough. I'm not criticising, just trying to understand your situation.
So why are you paying him? Would he pay you if you were the stay at home parent? It doesn't sound like you're talking about paying him child support because he's the parent with fulltime/primary custody but I could be misreading.
If he's so willing to criticise your parenting, surely he should do something to help you cope, ie, look after the kids for a week full time so that you can have a break (at least after work) or something?
Well we never askfor legal custody i work as a nanny he comes every day to take kids todaycare and pick them up. Isee.them at night when he picks me up from work and drop us off home im the one who live with kids. But i made him quit so he can take them to.and.from daycare . But i pay like if i was paying.any other nanny.
You should talk and be honest to a therapist. They have to keep it confidential or you could sue them for thousands which could then pay for daycare or a Nanny....
What to do when u feel u cant stand children?
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No my parents passedawayalready idont have any siblings and my moms sisters like they are not here cause they havent talked to me for last 10 years.father of my kids come to take them to and.from daycare cause i pay him cause a nanny wouldbe even more.expensive. iwork in childcare during the day and i cant even behonest with doctors or therapists cause they would report this to cps. Ihate being with babies and cant even stand when they move or make noises. Father says im a bad mom. With no patience and i feel bad for not being like those loving moms out there but i hate kids
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You pay the childrens father to look after them????
He's the shitty parent, not you. What sort of arsewipe gets paid to do their parental duties? Jesus.
Do you have any friends who could help you out? Colleagues? I understand your concerns about someone calling CPS on you. Sadly, it could happen. Some people are more concerned with bandaid solutions that addressing the actual problem. But if your children are actually at risk, then they may need to step in a support you in a way they see fit.
I get how hard it is. And I'm only a nanny, I don't have my own kids. Right now, I'm trying to get a break from having two kids shove cars in my face while screeching, "Look Mel, loooook!" and I could cheerfully slap them, if I didn't have the self control. And I have the luxury of going home to no kids. You don't. I feel for you.
Can their dad take them for a week? Without being paid for it, I mean. They're his goddamn kids, too.
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Well hehad a joband i asked him to quit. Ihad a nanny and she was not taking good care pkus when they got sick daycare didnt want them so father quit his job and i hired him to do.this instead of a stranger so when kids get sick he keeps them and.i dont lose my job. Im trapped.
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I kinda see what you're saying...
But I also see that if the roles were reversed, I doubt very much that you would be paid to be the stay at home parent.
But why even have them at daycare? If you're struggling for money and he's at home full time? It would save a lot. Daycare's expensive. Once again, if roles were reversed...
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Welldaycare paid by governmemt i would.never want to stayat home to watch my kids.my kids are waybetter in adaycare ithink at least happysome hours.
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Ok, that's fair enough. I'm not criticising, just trying to understand your situation.
So why are you paying him? Would he pay you if you were the stay at home parent? It doesn't sound like you're talking about paying him child support because he's the parent with fulltime/primary custody but I could be misreading.
If he's so willing to criticise your parenting, surely he should do something to help you cope, ie, look after the kids for a week full time so that you can have a break (at least after work) or something?
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Well we never askfor legal custody i work as a nanny he comes every day to take kids todaycare and pick them up. Isee.them at night when he picks me up from work and drop us off home im the one who live with kids. But i made him quit so he can take them to.and.from daycare . But i pay like if i was paying.any other nanny.
You should talk and be honest to a therapist. They have to keep it confidential or you could sue them for thousands which could then pay for daycare or a Nanny....