What to do when u feel u cant stand children?

Ive been in childcare field for the last 20 years have taken care mostly newborns infants andd toddlers and have kids of my own.18mths and almost 3 yr old they go to daycare during the day and i work with babies but i feel i cant stand when they move their feet or make noises.i live in a tiny bedroom and i.go.crazy at home i yell all the time idont want to play ot read books to my kids or pay attention. I hate kids at work i dont enjoy it but have to cause of the money.ifrel it bothers me anything a baby does.

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  • justbecause11

    I've gotta say that I understand where you're coming from, but I see excuse after excuse, after excuse. I have five kids, four of whom are still at home and range in age from fourteen to six. My wife and I were struggling financially several years ago. She made more money than me so I quit my job to stay at home with the kids. I see absolutely no reason why your kids father can't be a father and raise his kids.

    No, I'm not bringing in any money, but we are not paying shit tin of money every month for day care, which actually save us a shit ton of money. Make the kids father be a father. Stop with the excuses and get your kids taken care of, period.

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    • Well its notexcuse im justsaying whats going on if we were married things would be different but he lives in his house with his first family i live ina room withno kitchen.just a room and.bath. he.comes to help with kidsbut since i asked him to.quit his job and.take.care of the kids instead of hiring a stranger thats why he does it . I have no family parents or friends and.work 50.hrs per week as a nanny. Make 1100 per week and.thats.why i can pay him but my issue is that im exhausted tired of being with kids 24/7

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  • Aries

    switch your profession? many people do this in their life . Sometimes several times throughout the course of their adult life .

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  • charli.m

    You've burnt out. It's easy enough to do in this industry. I can't imagine how much harder it is with your own kids, too.

    Career change? In the short term, can you get someone to babysit while you have some you time?

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  • howaminotmyself

    You're burnt out. Find a new profession.

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  • You spend a lot of time with childern. You need a break. It's normal that you can't take it anymore Find a way to have someone else taking care of them. That's what I'd do to avoid them suffering from my anger acumulated over time.

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  • Well i dont talk to a therapist cause here in america if they think a child is being abused they report it to cps and idont want to lose them. So thats main reason i cant be honest with medical staff. But on the other hand i watch kids during the day its my job and.its a torture i feel i hate them. They bother me and annoy me cant stand the sounds or movements they make. Its horrible

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    • bulbasaur64

      Being frustrated at your kids and your situation isn't the same as being abusive, and I think a therapist would see that. A lot of parents feel frustrated and overwhelmed by little kids since they're so much work and a huge life change. As long as you aren't hurting your kids they wouldn't report you to cps.

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  • xoxo3103

    Why do you have kids? Specially the second one.

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    • Well2nd one was not planned but he came and i love him but at same time cant stand them. Im tired of kids .

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  • No my parents passedawayalready idont have any siblings and my moms sisters like they are not here cause they havent talked to me for last 10 years.father of my kids come to take them to and.from daycare cause i pay him cause a nanny wouldbe even more.expensive. iwork in childcare during the day and i cant even behonest with doctors or therapists cause they would report this to cps. Ihate being with babies and cant even stand when they move or make noises. Father says im a bad mom. With no patience and i feel bad for not being like those loving moms out there but i hate kids

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    • charli.m

      You pay the childrens father to look after them????

      He's the shitty parent, not you. What sort of arsewipe gets paid to do their parental duties? Jesus.

      Do you have any friends who could help you out? Colleagues? I understand your concerns about someone calling CPS on you. Sadly, it could happen. Some people are more concerned with bandaid solutions that addressing the actual problem. But if your children are actually at risk, then they may need to step in a support you in a way they see fit.

      I get how hard it is. And I'm only a nanny, I don't have my own kids. Right now, I'm trying to get a break from having two kids shove cars in my face while screeching, "Look Mel, loooook!" and I could cheerfully slap them, if I didn't have the self control. And I have the luxury of going home to no kids. You don't. I feel for you.

      Can their dad take them for a week? Without being paid for it, I mean. They're his goddamn kids, too.

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      • Well hehad a joband i asked him to quit. Ihad a nanny and she was not taking good care pkus when they got sick daycare didnt want them so father quit his job and i hired him to do.this instead of a stranger so when kids get sick he keeps them and.i dont lose my job. Im trapped.

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        • charli.m

          I kinda see what you're saying...

          But I also see that if the roles were reversed, I doubt very much that you would be paid to be the stay at home parent.

          But why even have them at daycare? If you're struggling for money and he's at home full time? It would save a lot. Daycare's expensive. Once again, if roles were reversed...

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          • Dalline22

            Welldaycare paid by governmemt i would.never want to stayat home to watch my kids.my kids are waybetter in adaycare ithink at least happysome hours.

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            • charli.m

              Ok, that's fair enough. I'm not criticising, just trying to understand your situation.

              So why are you paying him? Would he pay you if you were the stay at home parent? It doesn't sound like you're talking about paying him child support because he's the parent with fulltime/primary custody but I could be misreading.

              If he's so willing to criticise your parenting, surely he should do something to help you cope, ie, look after the kids for a week full time so that you can have a break (at least after work) or something?

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    • JonathanOo

      You should talk and be honest to a therapist. They have to keep it confidential or you could sue them for thousands which could then pay for daycare or a Nanny....

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  • bulbasaur64

    Do you have family, friends, or a partner who could help look after your kids some of the time? Little kids are loud and overwhelming and sometimes you need a break.

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    • No i dont even have a friend to go out or family to see. I feel im with kids 24/7 i hate them

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