I believe you had to think about her side of the story. I know your girlfriend (soon to be your wife) are living very happily and you have a beautiful child, you're the perfect couple and joyful family. And both are loyal to each other as well, so 'trust' issues may not be the case. And no risks of STI or STD. But...
What about her preferences?
Let's admit it. Cum is kinda gross. It has a not so pleasant smell or taste. And the fact that it comes from the same hole you piss from does not make it any better. Don't get me wrong, she loves you, but... She may find that kind of DIRECT interaction, too dirty or too gross. Imagine if you were in this position like, I dunno rimming or licking near the anus with no proper cleanness. If this is the case, you should talk about these hygyene issues or germ phobia and try to find a solution. Offer her to have a shower together, you can get sneaky and get aroused while bathing. But remembering to be very cautious to clean your penis.
Now if this isn't the concern, maybe it has something to do with her. From my own experience, there was a time I thought I had herpes and did not want to give a bj to my boyfriend so it couldn't spread. But luckily it was just severe acne and did overcome it. Either way you have to talk with her to get to know what the problem is. Please, try to be comprehensive with her and let her explain it, rather to attack and just say 'why not?' But 'how you feel about this?'
And finally if nothing else works... Maybe there is no specific reason.. Maybe it's just up to her not feeling comfortable or confident with this because she just believes on it. Just like some people hate spiders, they don't know why, but people hate them. Even if they are 100 times bigger than a spider and can easily get rid of it and even if they know it's completely harmless. They just feel it. And that's OK. We all have our own beliefs, preferences, likes and dislikes. Think about all the good things you both enjoy, think about sex not about just pleasure or lust, but to feel comfortable about it. To feel like you can relax and enjoy yourself with your loved one. You can even get to an agreement about trying oral sex with no protection just one day or use those extra-thin sensitive condomns as a starter.
Any way, talk to her. Be oprn and Respect her decision, don't push her to do something she won't like and could affect negatively all what you have build now. Remember that sex is about being both comfortable and enjoy yourselves at a lovely experience. Good luck!
What the fuck do I need a condom for?
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I believe you had to think about her side of the story. I know your girlfriend (soon to be your wife) are living very happily and you have a beautiful child, you're the perfect couple and joyful family. And both are loyal to each other as well, so 'trust' issues may not be the case. And no risks of STI or STD. But...
What about her preferences?
Let's admit it. Cum is kinda gross. It has a not so pleasant smell or taste. And the fact that it comes from the same hole you piss from does not make it any better. Don't get me wrong, she loves you, but... She may find that kind of DIRECT interaction, too dirty or too gross. Imagine if you were in this position like, I dunno rimming or licking near the anus with no proper cleanness. If this is the case, you should talk about these hygyene issues or germ phobia and try to find a solution. Offer her to have a shower together, you can get sneaky and get aroused while bathing. But remembering to be very cautious to clean your penis.
Now if this isn't the concern, maybe it has something to do with her. From my own experience, there was a time I thought I had herpes and did not want to give a bj to my boyfriend so it couldn't spread. But luckily it was just severe acne and did overcome it. Either way you have to talk with her to get to know what the problem is. Please, try to be comprehensive with her and let her explain it, rather to attack and just say 'why not?' But 'how you feel about this?'
And finally if nothing else works... Maybe there is no specific reason.. Maybe it's just up to her not feeling comfortable or confident with this because she just believes on it. Just like some people hate spiders, they don't know why, but people hate them. Even if they are 100 times bigger than a spider and can easily get rid of it and even if they know it's completely harmless. They just feel it. And that's OK. We all have our own beliefs, preferences, likes and dislikes. Think about all the good things you both enjoy, think about sex not about just pleasure or lust, but to feel comfortable about it. To feel like you can relax and enjoy yourself with your loved one. You can even get to an agreement about trying oral sex with no protection just one day or use those extra-thin sensitive condomns as a starter.
Any way, talk to her. Be oprn and Respect her decision, don't push her to do something she won't like and could affect negatively all what you have build now. Remember that sex is about being both comfortable and enjoy yourselves at a lovely experience. Good luck!