Like just avoid texting all together, if you have something important or sweet to say to him, say it to him, not through a text. It sounds like he just avoided you after you texted him something sweet? Are you sure he's really interested in being with you or that there isn't someone else in his life?
We are long-distance (in the same state) and the last time we saw each other, I went to him. So especially at this point, there is no way I'm going to be that vulnerable and go see him as if he's all I have in my life. Maybe a long time ago, but he doesn't deserve that right now.
Basically what I said above, I'll cope and paste to answer why I think he's interested. He hasn't let me go and he's the type to not waste his time on things he's not into. He has introduced me to his family (not his parents but they know of me, just his sister and his cousin). Apparently, a couple of his friends know about me so he's told them about me. They said "oh so you're____." He's given me thoughtful and random gifts, not like diamond bracelets, but he gave me useful things (i.e. a really good phone charger out of nowhere and a contact case cause he knows about my contact issues I have.) He will ask me sometimes what do I feel like doing and we'll come to a compromise. The main thing he points out why he likes me though is because we're both silly and have the same sense of humor.
In terms of other people in the picture, sigh...like 80% I'm sure he doesn't have any one else. Do I think that yeah maybe he has another interest or chit-chat a little with someone else, yeah. The worst I can think of is, I'm his back-up because I'm always there for him. But he's said before that just like me, he doesn't feel the need to talk or be with someone else cause he has me. Well, if he feels like I'm good enough then why can't he just make me his gf already? Confused af.
He's not at a point where he wants a gf, so he could just be with you because you don't want a relationship either and he wants all the benefits that come with a relationship and none of the stress or lovey dovey crap.
Well I realized I think I should be exclusive with him because thats gonna make everything more secure. He'll know he needs to do certain things now but thats just not reality.
Well I haven't texted him back because I don't know what to text him and don't want to text him something ordinary like everythings fine but I also don't want to text him complaining because I have before and he gave me his reason why he does that. I'm 100% sure he is shocked I have gone this long without contacting him because I have always been there for him and now, he needs a taste of his own medicine and he needs to know I'm going to give him the same effort in return. He hasn't texted me either tho after his last text so we haven't communicated like back and forth for like two days.
Right now, I basically have the upper-hand but I'm not sure what I'm going to text him. To be honest, the way we have been communicating is with memes. Its our way of laughing at the things we don't like about each other and its been kool until he went MIA. So I'm thinking of sending him a meme, but again, that's like the ordinary and itll look like everythings okay.
Maybe he's just indifferent, like it doesn't bother him when you don't respond to a text? He doesn't need that constant communication with you because you're not his gf and he doesn't expect you to put in that effort for someone you're not dating.
I think you should wait it out, don't text him until he texts you, like obvi it's not okay and you want more, so you shouldn't send him a meme and pretend it doesn't bother you. He's not going to know anythings wrong unless you tell him.
Idk if you know but he did text me already but last night after almost two days. But I haven't textd him back because like I said, I'm giving him a taste of his own medicine and letting him know that I'm not going to respond quickly an be there for him all the time like I have been.
Idk if that changed your last response. Should I just keep waiting until he texts me again or text him back and if so, then what should I tell him?
I would wait, see if he notices you didn't answer him. Let him see things from your point. A couple days not talking would help and then when he does text you, you can just ask him how he felt when you didn't respond to him.
What should I text him back?
← View full post
Can you meet up with him and talk this weekend?
Like just avoid texting all together, if you have something important or sweet to say to him, say it to him, not through a text. It sounds like he just avoided you after you texted him something sweet? Are you sure he's really interested in being with you or that there isn't someone else in his life?
--
Anonymous Post Author
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
We are long-distance (in the same state) and the last time we saw each other, I went to him. So especially at this point, there is no way I'm going to be that vulnerable and go see him as if he's all I have in my life. Maybe a long time ago, but he doesn't deserve that right now.
Basically what I said above, I'll cope and paste to answer why I think he's interested. He hasn't let me go and he's the type to not waste his time on things he's not into. He has introduced me to his family (not his parents but they know of me, just his sister and his cousin). Apparently, a couple of his friends know about me so he's told them about me. They said "oh so you're____." He's given me thoughtful and random gifts, not like diamond bracelets, but he gave me useful things (i.e. a really good phone charger out of nowhere and a contact case cause he knows about my contact issues I have.) He will ask me sometimes what do I feel like doing and we'll come to a compromise. The main thing he points out why he likes me though is because we're both silly and have the same sense of humor.
In terms of other people in the picture, sigh...like 80% I'm sure he doesn't have any one else. Do I think that yeah maybe he has another interest or chit-chat a little with someone else, yeah. The worst I can think of is, I'm his back-up because I'm always there for him. But he's said before that just like me, he doesn't feel the need to talk or be with someone else cause he has me. Well, if he feels like I'm good enough then why can't he just make me his gf already? Confused af.
--
Fall_leaves
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
He's not at a point where he wants a gf, so he could just be with you because you don't want a relationship either and he wants all the benefits that come with a relationship and none of the stress or lovey dovey crap.
Is he still ignoring you or acting indifferent?
--
Anonymous Post Author
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Well I realized I think I should be exclusive with him because thats gonna make everything more secure. He'll know he needs to do certain things now but thats just not reality.
Well I haven't texted him back because I don't know what to text him and don't want to text him something ordinary like everythings fine but I also don't want to text him complaining because I have before and he gave me his reason why he does that. I'm 100% sure he is shocked I have gone this long without contacting him because I have always been there for him and now, he needs a taste of his own medicine and he needs to know I'm going to give him the same effort in return. He hasn't texted me either tho after his last text so we haven't communicated like back and forth for like two days.
Right now, I basically have the upper-hand but I'm not sure what I'm going to text him. To be honest, the way we have been communicating is with memes. Its our way of laughing at the things we don't like about each other and its been kool until he went MIA. So I'm thinking of sending him a meme, but again, that's like the ordinary and itll look like everythings okay.
--
Fall_leaves
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Maybe he's just indifferent, like it doesn't bother him when you don't respond to a text? He doesn't need that constant communication with you because you're not his gf and he doesn't expect you to put in that effort for someone you're not dating.
I think you should wait it out, don't text him until he texts you, like obvi it's not okay and you want more, so you shouldn't send him a meme and pretend it doesn't bother you. He's not going to know anythings wrong unless you tell him.
--
Anonymous Post Author
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
Idk if you know but he did text me already but last night after almost two days. But I haven't textd him back because like I said, I'm giving him a taste of his own medicine and letting him know that I'm not going to respond quickly an be there for him all the time like I have been.
Idk if that changed your last response. Should I just keep waiting until he texts me again or text him back and if so, then what should I tell him?
--
Fall_leaves
8 years ago
|
pl
Comment Hidden (
show
)
Report
0
0
See More Comments =>
I would wait, see if he notices you didn't answer him. Let him see things from your point. A couple days not talking would help and then when he does text you, you can just ask him how he felt when you didn't respond to him.