What should i do? should i feel guilty?

So this is a complex issue, but I'll try to be brief. My boyfriend and I have been dating for three years. He is the love of my life and the man I want to marry. The issues comes from the fact that he is very well endowed. Even without that, he is the most talented lover I have ever known. I should consider myself lucky. But to be honest, the size is actually too much for me. He is gentle and sweet, and when we have sex treats me, I guess I would say delicately, and yet there still is an amount of pain involved. Before we ever had sex, we discussed preferences and he said that he liked things in the bedroom rough. He's never brought it up again since, but it's always lingered in my mind. To be honest, I can't give him that. I've tried exercises, stretching techniques and everything. Foreplay and other things work out fine, but its the actual sex that I feel I let him down with. At this point I don't know what else I could do! From his end, he gives me everything I could want and more. But that makes me feel all the worse, because I know he's holding back on my account. It just makes me feel like less of a lover. Any advice? Is it normal for me to feel guilt about the whole thing?

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  • theceilingfan

    There's nothing you can do to elongate your vagina, from what I can tell. It's how you're made and I'm sure he hasn't brought up "rough" sex again because he completely understands that :). Maybe you can handle a rough fucking, but you could get him to toss you around on the bed...that's some kind of roughness without actually causing you pain. As said above, talk to him as the previous response states because there might be other things he'd like to do that make the sex a "rougher" without actually being painful for you ;)

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    • theceilingfan

      I meant to say "CAN'T handle a rough fucking" [from such a well endowed man]

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  • YBNormal

    It's normal, but probably rare since probably most guys aren't hung like horses.

    The first thing I would suggest, as always, is talking to him. You've opened up to strangers on a board, now take that next scary step and open up to HIM. Ask him how he feels, ask him if he's getting what he needs, tell him your fears and that you want to do more, but you're not sure how.

    Great sex between two people in love requires using your mouths... to TALK. So, talk to him. Say the same things you said to us, because I found this post quite beautiful personally.

    And congrats on your good fortune. May it last a lifetime. With a woman like you on his side, I have no doubt that it can.

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