What should i do in this situation?

14 Comments

I used to have a good friend from Primary School. After Primary School, she went into another highschool and I went to another one. We even went to Prom night together. I really like her but I was afraid to make a move due to the fear of rejection. After two years passed, I asked one of her friends (mine too) if that girl is dating anyone. She told me that she is dating some guy. I really feel bad and haven't had a decent sleep since I found out.

Wait for her to break up (if they do) and then express my feelings 34
Express my feelings now 23
Just look for another girl 31
Other (Add a comment) 5
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 14 )
  • PumpkinKate
    12 years ago

    20 years from now you'll spend a lot more time regretting what you DIDN'T do, rather than what you DID do.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • [Old Memory]
      12 years ago

      Lol I love that quote its by Mark Twain

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • graphic_nature
    12 years ago

    Possible you were friend-zoned. But if not you should respect the relationship she's in now. Have fun dating around now and if it was meant to be your paths will cross later, when shes single.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
      -
    • UnrecognizableMan
      12 years ago

      I disagree. If you two are "meant to be" then theres no reason to believe your "paths will cross later".

      To the OP: You should respect their relationship, but respect your own feelings too. So you should tell her, but in a respectful way! (I.e. don't get her drunk and start making out). You don't know if there ever be a better chance.

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Moneybagschest
    11 years ago

    You missed your shot and she is dating. Leave it be.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • iminhere
    12 years ago

    Hey there, I wouldn't suggest you to look for another girl and move on. Just wait. It will yield a sweeter fruit :)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • klunky
    12 years ago

    Look for another girl - you will have someone to spend time with, you may just love her more and forget about the first one, and if you don't, the first one will probably be more attracted to you if you aren't alone. I don't know why this is the way it works, but it is.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • spoon4d
    12 years ago

    try to forget , don't stay heartbroken .
    this happens to most of us .

    Oliver

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • LSKSK
    12 years ago

    I think that expressing your feeling has to be done but is that breif peace of mind worth possiby making her break up with her current boyfriend and she might resent you for that.

    If you stress the point that you dont expect her to do anything about it then it should all be ok and she wont feel in a bad situation

    Hope this helps

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • wickedwizardking
    12 years ago

    If it's multiple choice I circle "D) B and C". If you like her, tell her. At least now she knows how you feel about her and it's off your chest. However, she's with someone so you can't expect her to put her life on hold for you, which would be great to express to her.

    Don't wait for her because if she never feels for you that way, you will only regret the time you wasted and opportunities you could have taken.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • SoccerStud88
    12 years ago

    if nothing happened before it prolly won't happen now. Sorry to bust your bubble.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
      -
    • x6tence
      12 years ago

      damn straight

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      1
      1
  • joybird
    12 years ago

    You're young enough to meet loads of other girls and if it's meant to be with this girl then your paths will cross later in your life at some point.

    That which is for you, won't go past you :o)

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • lease
    12 years ago

    100% let her know how you feel. So what if she has a boyfriend? Make time to talk to her, maybe hang out. Get her address and write her a couple letters. I'm not saying you should tell her to break things off with the other dude, but I'm telling you she can't choose to date you instead if she doesn't know you're interested.

    She may go for it, she may decline - but at least you'll have tried - which is a lot better than "...I wish I had said something."

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    -1
    -1