My dad actually had almost exactly the same experience with his mother.
After his father died, my and dad made efforts to see her a lot and take her out, get her involved in things, and live her life again. After a couple of years my parents got sick of her behaviour, always waiting for us to make any effort, plus she criticized us a fair bit and was always miserable and ungrateful. After a while my dad decided he wasn't going to pander to her anymore. From that time on we received only ONE phone call from her, in which she talked to me for a while, let me know she loved me (or so she said...) and that was it.
It's been about 5 years since then and we've heard nothing of her. We're better off without her and my dad feels no sorrow for it, he's feeling liberated about it. Good riddance I say, but I don't feel anything against her, it seems we're emotionally divorced from her now, I was 12 at the time so I barely knew her anyway.
Woah that was a long comment, sorry... hope that offered something helpful to you.
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My dad actually had almost exactly the same experience with his mother.
After his father died, my and dad made efforts to see her a lot and take her out, get her involved in things, and live her life again. After a couple of years my parents got sick of her behaviour, always waiting for us to make any effort, plus she criticized us a fair bit and was always miserable and ungrateful. After a while my dad decided he wasn't going to pander to her anymore. From that time on we received only ONE phone call from her, in which she talked to me for a while, let me know she loved me (or so she said...) and that was it.
It's been about 5 years since then and we've heard nothing of her. We're better off without her and my dad feels no sorrow for it, he's feeling liberated about it. Good riddance I say, but I don't feel anything against her, it seems we're emotionally divorced from her now, I was 12 at the time so I barely knew her anyway.
Woah that was a long comment, sorry... hope that offered something helpful to you.