What's worse ,losing someone that was good or not good ?

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What is worse , in your opinion , if a parent passed away who was good to you and the family and you were close to him /her ,or a parent who wasn't so good who was kinda not close and had issues , and passed away ,you didn't have a relationship with him/her ?

It's harder to lose a parent that was so good 46
It's harder to lose a parent that wasn't that good 0
Both cases are bad /hard 5
it doesn't matter the relationship in the end he/she is the parent 11
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  • maddog546
    12 years ago

    You can't lose something you never had inthe first place.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    I don't care. As long as I survive, all's well.

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  • disthing
    12 years ago

    Definitely more difficult to lose someone close to you, always.

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  • CrashMan
    12 years ago

    As terrible as both options are, it's always going to be harder to lose somebody that you're very close to. Like Gena45 above said, if my parents abused and beat me throughout my life, then I don't think I'd be very sad if they died. I might be a little sad, but I would almost certainly much sadder if they were very loving people. It's a no brainer that you're going to be closer to somebody who cares for you and tries to raise you well rather than somebody who doesn't treat you well at all.

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  • DannyBxtchh
    12 years ago

    I don't think it'd be hard for me to lose a parent. /;

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  • dom180
    12 years ago

    Both of them sound kind of terrible, but I'd rather lose someone that I was close to, it would probably convince me to try and patch it up with one that I didn't like.

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  • dappled
    12 years ago

    I haven't lost a parent yet but I think it's going to be difficult for the very fact that we never saw eye to eye and now any last chance has gone. But it'd probably be harder still if I had a relationship with them.

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  • missy18
    12 years ago

    My parents split when I was 5 and had issues for ages. I wanted to hang out with my dad and he loved my brother and I but he just couldn't handle the responsibility of us and was manipulative, so I decided when I was 14 to stop myself from seeing him, and a year later he died. I had only seen him 2 or three times within the last year, and it hurt, but it certainly didn't hurt as much as people thought it might.
    I loved him, though I barely cried at his funeral. And afterwards, my brother's, my mum's and my life actually got a lot easier and I got the consent to go overseas! Because my dad had refused to sign the papers for my passport (presumably to get back at my mum). Anyway he died and I got to go haha. Best experience of my life (so far) ^^

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  • Ldizzy1234
    12 years ago

    I see it as, either way they're the parent. I would take it hard either way.

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  • [Old Memory]
    12 years ago

    It depends on who you are.

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  • Gena45
    12 years ago

    I think it's harder to lose someone you're close to. Just because they're a parent doesn't mean they are good people. If I had a parent who abused and beat me my whole life, and then another one who was very loving, of course it would hurt more to lose the good parent.

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