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I don't understand what's the big fuss & why are people so obsessed over relationships?
I always hear guys or girls complaining or seeking advice about a dumb relationship. At the end of the day 99% of relationships never last so why waste all that time & stress on someone who'll be a distant memory?
I have a friend going through this, I see her post these anti-love speeches on Facebook, as if love is imprisonment and she rather live life than love. Yeah, relationships aren't necessary, but they're there anyway; just like having children aren't needed since our species isn't endangered, but we keep popping them out anyway.
In my opinion, it's all about knowing the difference between love and infatuation, along with understanding the cycle of relationships and human nature (psychology junk).
Infatuation is the first thing that hits us; all the sex, being glued to your partner, etc. That's normal, because it's a phase we have no choice but to go through due to the increase level of dopamine and more in our brains when we meet someone interesting. It can last for a few days/weeks/months to a few years. Some people get completely lost in this stage, and lose themselves in their partner (getting married too soon, moving in together after meeting, etc); however, the best thing to do is become aware of what's going on and simply enjoy it without letting yourself get lost or making big decisions during this phase.
Stage 2, is when the high wears off (and it can wear off for both, or person in the relationship while the other is still in the high). The infatuation phase is over, and it's either love or break up. In this stage it truly depends on the people, their problem solving skills, and more. You two are no longer seeing eye to eye, the sex sucks for some reason, and little things that use to be cute are now irritating or extremely noticeable. At this point, it's either you two are compatible (relationship expectations, boundaries, understanding, etc) or not; and whether one of you is honest to admit it and willing to break up.
Not a lot of people get pass stage 2; I'm not sure if my boyfriend and I are passed it or not, there's still so much we have to experience together.
The bottom line is, chill. If you don't want a relationship, then that's fine; however, don't scoff at others who choose to enter one and go through the struggle. Understand that common sense isn't common, and people will make stupid decisions for the sake of the feelings they feel.
To love and to be loved are human needs. Important parts of a healthy psyche.
I'm just not interested in having multiple partners or sexcapades I just want one person forever I'm like a fox I mate for life
Well I am interested in having a romantic relationship because I think it would be fun.
Because boring, sober people have nothing better to do than live predictable lives. They settle for a routine so they dont really have to think to hard about what to do next or invest the effort to find new people to have sex with.
Relationships and monogamy are socially constructed!!! It's not for everyone and that's fine if you don't want it! Just make sure you still surround yourself with friends and family that have got time for you so you're never too alone, and keep having somewhat regular sex if you are into sex as it is good for you- but do as you please!! I feel for the majority the same as you, but I think you either just won't feel like there's any point ever or you won't until you're old and you happen to find 'the one' or whatever. But good luck!!!
My only goal in life was to be with the one I love. I failed miserably and see no future.
So, yeah, we all want to be loved.
Everything gives way but that is no reason to not be able to enjoy yourself in the moment. OP can't handle living in the moment. Just humor the present OP.
Love is life, I would do anything for my GF. Becuase I love her, and she deserves it. So that, I ask some questions so I can get responses from other people in order to satisfy her and make her happy. When you fall in love, you want to do anything to make your soulmate smile.
Love is definitely not life! What a shallow narrow minded perspective.
I get that when you're in love you want to make the other happy but there's so much more to life than just one person.
I've experienced love but you can also feel love in many other different ways and not just for a single individual. I feel social media has brain washed everyone into thinking that this is the only purpose in life but life has so much to offer.