What orientation do i seem?

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I am 23, and female. I have never had a boyfriend and I'm still a virgin. I have done everything else though with guys I didn't know too well. I have never kissed a girl either. I find myself attracted to guys romantically and sexually, but not emotionally or intellectually. I feel like I can't relate to them on a deeper level so therefore it's hard to develop strong feelings for them. that's why I don't really care about having a bf, but I just feel like there is something wrong with me. I've been single all my life so that's all I know, so I guess a part of me is afraid and doesn't want to change? I do get infatuated when I am attracted to certain guys and I get very excited when I see them or they pay me attention/flirt.

As for girls, I feel more comfortable around them because i know there is no pressure to hook up or have a relationship. Therefore, I have no problem connecting with them emotionally and intellectually. I feel closer to them. I'm pretty sure that is normal for girls though? I do did myself attracted to their beauty and personality and I admire that. I get random girl crushes where I will think the girl is super cool and I'll want to be just like her.

however, sometimes I feel as if sex is very uncomfortable an awkward. I don't know if it's just bc I am inexperienced or what.

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  • dappled
    11 years ago | pl

    I think, because of your inexperience, you're perhaps unsure about what is desirable for a close friendship and what is desirable for a physical/romantic relationship. To me, you sound like you're straight but that there is something blocking you from pursuing a relationship.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago | pl

    I think you're straight.

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  • TerryVie
    11 years ago | pl

    "I find myself attracted to guys romantically and sexually, but not emotionally or intellectually. I feel like I can't relate to them on a deeper level so therefore it's hard to develop strong feelings for them."

    That part right there...its your answer.
    You are romantically and sexually attracted to man.

    Emotional and Intellectual attraction comes, to many people, and regardless of the type of relationship(straight, gay, lesbian...), AFTER they entered into a closer relationship.

    Wether they knew their partner from their circle of friends, from work, or just ended up having sex and deciding they be together. Only after a certain level of closeness is overcome will you start getting really emotionally attached to someone. It's a protective mechanism, really. Before it's just romantic. Also, you need that closeness for insights into people, to find yourself intellectually attached to them as well.

    You just never went that far, and find that emotionally or intellectually, it is lacking, but those are the things you only find when you keep going. ^_^

    So i guess you are actually straight from what you wrote.
    I voted bisexual though just because i'm mischievious and i'd hope you try with a girl once or twice, too *gg*

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  • Bellaitalia89
    11 years ago | pl

    Can someone explain the portrait and landscape please haha

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    • misca
      11 years ago | pl

      Landscape: the width is greater than the height
      Portrait: vice versa

      Applies to paper orientation for printers, screens/windows for computers, photos, etc.

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  • misca
    11 years ago | pl

    Landscape.

    EDIT: Oh, NoraBaker got first... :(

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  • NoraBaker
    11 years ago | pl

    You're definitely not a portrait, you're a landscape.

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  • bananaface
    11 years ago | pl

    You sound straight, in my opinion. Does it really matter, though?

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