Find "How to Win Friends and Influence People" online and read it. Basically, all you have to do is take a genuine interest in someone and they'll think you're a great conversationalist.
If someone asks you if you've seen any good movies lately, you can bet that they have and want to tell you about it. Above everything else, people want to feel important. Let them.
That is a good book, over 100 years old and still relevant. If the op is into reading and wanted something more modern, Brene Brown is.Good, for a more Machiavellian approach I enjoy Robert Greene.
I agree, ask lots of questions. I get nervous because I hate small talk, for example I love to read but if someone asked me what I read or a favorite author I'd get nervous cause I don't pay attention to that stuff. Same with music, movies etc. I never remember titles, artists, actors etc. This makes me think people will think I am a fake or lying...hmmm imagine that.
Anyway I overcome this by asking the questions of others first. It takes the pressure off and once someone starts talking about themselves they tend not to shut up for a bit or the conversation just flows.
What is wrong with me?
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Find "How to Win Friends and Influence People" online and read it. Basically, all you have to do is take a genuine interest in someone and they'll think you're a great conversationalist.
If someone asks you if you've seen any good movies lately, you can bet that they have and want to tell you about it. Above everything else, people want to feel important. Let them.
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That is a good book, over 100 years old and still relevant. If the op is into reading and wanted something more modern, Brene Brown is.Good, for a more Machiavellian approach I enjoy Robert Greene.
I agree, ask lots of questions. I get nervous because I hate small talk, for example I love to read but if someone asked me what I read or a favorite author I'd get nervous cause I don't pay attention to that stuff. Same with music, movies etc. I never remember titles, artists, actors etc. This makes me think people will think I am a fake or lying...hmmm imagine that.
Anyway I overcome this by asking the questions of others first. It takes the pressure off and once someone starts talking about themselves they tend not to shut up for a bit or the conversation just flows.