What is more important in a partner? beauty or personality

Bad looking and bad personality? Easiest combo to find

If you don't like someone's personality then they're beauty will probably become less and less attractive anyway, you'll just end up resenting them.

Personality means more but I wish people would stfu in saying that they don't care about looks at all. You fuckin' do.

All I care about is personality and them having a wicked sense of humor. I couldn't care much about looks.

Looks are nice but they'll fade eventually.

She has to be pretty or I couldnt have an attraction to her. It just couldnt work if she was not attractive.

When I grow to like someone, I tend to find their appearance more beautiful. I see very few people as ugly, everyone has some attractive physical features, at least one. Especially people’s candid smiles, those are always endearing :)

I'm very strongly on the Personality (and Character) side; and dated a number of Ladies who were anything but pretty without a lot of cosmetic work and custom clothing (which can make almost anyone look at least somewhat hot); but were great people.

Then I met the Lady who happened to become my wife (who is in fact visually stunning - and I literally had family members jaws drop when they saw her). So I got both.

Yet, for some years she was not very happy that I told her that I married her for her brains and character 1st, and beauty a distant second.

Then it dawned on her. I was meeting a lot of other stunning looking younger ladies as part of what I normally did; and all the sudden she understood that I was not interested in most of those because they did not have the right mental personalities, abilities, and character. Also, that as she aged that she would not be able to visually compete with other younger Ladies.

Now she loves and appreciate that I married her for her brains and character... The other thing she said a year or so later after she realized that.... That most of the men who cheated only focused on looks and not brains and character (and of course she was long ago used to men hitting on her based only on her looks).

So if you are focused on looks... how are you going to adjust to a many year relationship that's long enough that looks change... Just keep moving on to younger beautiful woman... or stick it out with one with more meaningful long term qualities?

I note that of course my wife knows I look at beautiful Ladies (and she will point out ones that she thinks I will enjoy - she knows my preferences). Eye candy does not bother her at all...

She also knows that if I meet the right Lady with the right brains, character, and personality for a long term friend... that I will likely be interested in more as I'm poly in nature. She will approve me forming a full relationship with the right lady. I do have to ask her up front and she can provide feedback if she feels that the lady in question is not suitable. I'm very selective (one of the reasons my wife is OK with this), and I am only looking for very long term multi-year relationships like this (longest was 14 years, next longest 7 years; they all knew about the other in advance - and often met the other as well at least once).

Personality is more important, but I refuse to answer binary polls like this which imply that the other one isn't an important attribute.

A weedy little guy that is unemployed and stays up half the night watching porn isn't gonna be in a relationship any time soon. A great big hunk of a man who is a male-chauvanistic prick might have relationships but they are gonna be toxic as hell.

The same goes for when the genders are reversed. A fat chick who has poor self esteem and doesn't make any real effort to take care of herself won't find a partner. Whilst a hot girl might have millions of guys going after her, if she's a completely stuck-up, selfish diva with outdated views about how the guy is supposed to buy her everything, the guys she dates will soon be turned off too.

It depends on how she or he is ugly. But ill always choosebad looks. They matter, but I prefer someone who I could enjoy being around, and not be irritated by them or annoyed

Well i've developed feelings for guys who weren't that good looking but they had attractive physical qualities if that makes sense... Like tallness (yes I prefer tall guys, sue me), nice hair, good sense of style and an interesting personality to top that off. If some is interesting and can also make me laugh then that does a lot, not to mention if he smells good... One guy had a very attractive side profile, but from the front not so much. Shame