I find it rather insulting, because the person is basically lying, and trying to get me to doubt things which I know are true.
It's a little surreal too. I often find myself wondering if the person is just telling me bald faced lies or is in such deep denial of whatever happened that he or she seems to have some selective memory about.
I think those with psychopathic tendencies know they're lying and they deliberately use those lies to manipulate, while narcissists genuinely believe their twisted view of reality is true.
My mother-in-law has narcissistic tendencies, and her lies drove my wife nuts for years. Recognising that she's a narcissist makes it a little easier for my wife to cope with her, but it still annoys her. I think that's partly because my wife wants to respect and trust her mother, but that's simply impossible.
Both my mother and my now ex-boyfriend are probably narcissists, and they both gaslight. The context within which the gaslighting occurs is usually a response of rabid denial regarding something awful and abusive they've done. They are both incapable of accepting responsibility for their misdeeds. These are people who can never accept that they are less than perfect. It makes me sick to tell you the truth.
I think a lifetime of dealing with my mother sort of primed me for meeting, and falling for my now ex-boyfriend.
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I find it rather insulting, because the person is basically lying, and trying to get me to doubt things which I know are true.
It's a little surreal too. I often find myself wondering if the person is just telling me bald faced lies or is in such deep denial of whatever happened that he or she seems to have some selective memory about.
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I think those with psychopathic tendencies know they're lying and they deliberately use those lies to manipulate, while narcissists genuinely believe their twisted view of reality is true.
My mother-in-law has narcissistic tendencies, and her lies drove my wife nuts for years. Recognising that she's a narcissist makes it a little easier for my wife to cope with her, but it still annoys her. I think that's partly because my wife wants to respect and trust her mother, but that's simply impossible.
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Both my mother and my now ex-boyfriend are probably narcissists, and they both gaslight. The context within which the gaslighting occurs is usually a response of rabid denial regarding something awful and abusive they've done. They are both incapable of accepting responsibility for their misdeeds. These are people who can never accept that they are less than perfect. It makes me sick to tell you the truth.
I think a lifetime of dealing with my mother sort of primed me for meeting, and falling for my now ex-boyfriend.