From what I've run into: Regular women just want everyone to have equal rights and they respect everyone regardless of race, gender, etc. Extreme feminists want special treatment, are loud, scary, and can turn almost anything into an argument about oppression.
An extreme feminist is what you get when you sprinkle washing powder over a warm pile of shit. You scrub and scrub and shit is the only thing that comes out. Because of that everybody thinks you're weird and doesn't wanna be around you