What if your bro/sis is really, really just your 1/2 bro/sis?

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Found out about a few months ago that my bro was really my 1/2 bro. Good guy, great childhood memories. Doesn't change a thing for me, but now I look at him alot more like a great friend AND bro. Want it or not, it DOES change your perspective, at least it did mine, at least a little. You?

Scream "WTF??!!" 7
Regard Him/Her as Family Anyway 33
Think Ill of Mom/Dad 1
Disregard Him/Her Immediately 1
Wonder if I Am and Hope I'm Not Adopted 4
Grew up with them, love them anyway 29
Lose Trust 3
Gain Trust 1
ID Crisis 0
Don't Care 14
Thought So... 1
Knew It! 0
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  • bananaface
    11 years ago

    I couldn't care less about blood, etc. Literally, it means nothing to me. The only purpose it seems to serve to me is it gives people labels, such as sister or cousin, etc.

    If I found out that my sister and I shared only one parent, I don't think it would change anything. Sharing the same blood or whatever with someone doesn't form attachments. Spending time with them does. That's why I have friends who feel more like family than my actual family, which is quite confusing to me.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      I don't think it's about blood either. It's more about trust. When you find out that your parents are holding something out from you for the longest time and just one fine day decide to tell you can make many people insecure, especially when it concearns the ones whom one is supposed to trust more than anyone else. Don't you think?

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  • Captain_Kegstand
    11 years ago

    Technically I share no blood with my little sis. That means nothing, as she is still my little sis, and I would do anything in the world for her!

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      That's really sweet. Guess there's little one can do when it comes to strong bonds.

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      • Captain_Kegstand
        11 years ago

        There is no blood, but we did grow up together as brother and sister, so I think that blood has less to do with that bond than most people think.

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  • BlueJeansWhiteShirt
    11 years ago

    Both of my siblings are half. Doesn't change anything whatsoever.

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  • Unimportant
    11 years ago

    I hope it wouldn't change anything for me. I can't say for sure, because I've never been in this situation.

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  • BurnaBaby27
    11 years ago

    This thought would always run through my mind when I was younger. It wouldn't change my relationship with my brothers (I have three), but..I don't know how to describe it..it would just be a little disheartening to know that I didn't have any "full" siblings who shared the same blood as me..I don't know if I'm making sense.

    I do have a half brother on my father's side that I've never met. He's older than all of us. His birthday is the day before my oldest brother's birthday the year before. Crazy. And his mother died a few years back. I feel bad cuz he doesn't have any "full" siblings, being that he was the only product of his mother and our father. He has a sister I believe, on his mothers side. He rarely sees her. Plus, he lives in England and we live in America :{.

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  • nobleserpent
    11 years ago

    It would mean nothing to me.

    If family has any connection to petty physical blood, then it's just a tenuous connection at best.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      Agreed.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    why does it matter so much to you?

    That person hasn't changed. the only thing that changed is who your parents had sex with and your own mental bias perhaps

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      Curiosity always matters. And yes, hearing your opinion aswell matters and is very valuable.

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  • Coolieo
    11 years ago

    Er, I have an elder bro n' sis, and I didn't really realize they were my 1/2 relatives until I was like 8. My older bro was born in '94 while my sis was born in '95, and my mom divorced my bro and sis's dad, and my bro's and sis's real dad died when he was around six, and my sis was around five. My mother didn't realize he died till like 3 years after, that's why I was born when my bro was like 5, and my sis was 4. I also have a younger brother that I am 5 years older than him, but he is not a 1/2 brother. No matter how 1/2 my older bro and sis might seem, I still love and care for them as if they were my own. I honestly don't think it matters, as long as you care and love for them, that's all that does matter. I am 13 BTW.

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    I have a shit load of siblings lol over 10. And none of them are full blooded. All half, and i look at them all as family. Id die for my sisters and brothers.

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  • Charle44
    11 years ago

    Been there. It does weird you out a little, thinking about all the things you do/don't have in common and wondering where they came from. And depending on how it happened, it can change the way you think of your parents. But not much, and it goes away pretty quickly.

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  • Cuntsiclestick
    11 years ago

    When I was a kid, I found out my older sister was actually my step-sister. My persepective of her remained the same. She's still my sister even if we look nothing alike.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      Definitely! That's what it's all about I think, bond not blood.

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  • melloelf
    11 years ago

    i have 3 siblings, and only one of them, my older brother, is full blood relation.
    i don't see my sisters as anything other than my sisters though - i never really acknowledged that my older sister had a different dad until my brother brought it to my attention, because my older sisters dad never really had much to do in her life, so my dad was pretty much her dad.
    my younger sister is a little different, my mum is white and my little sisters dad is black so her skin colour always marks her out, when i was younger that made it harder for me to see her as my sister and not my half sister, but as i got older (and more protective) it didn't bother me anymore - i just wish it didnt bother other people so much.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    11 years ago

    I'm from a pretty broken family, and most of the family I had was family that became my family over time. Blood relation isn't necessary.

    Although I know my brother is my 1/2 brother, knew it from the start, it wasn't a secret.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      Agreed. Important to know this stuff from the beginning. How many siblings do you have?

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      • NeuroNeptunian
        11 years ago

        Just 2.

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        • talkingpicturebox
          11 years ago

          Well, I have nine, seven of which are from my mom and dad, two of which are from previous relationships. It's fundamental for trust to be built from the start, no unexpected "suprises". Alhtough it really doesn't change anything with your sibling, it just might make you trust your parents that much less.

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          • NeuroNeptunian
            11 years ago

            Well I don't get it, did they lie to you?

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  • dirtybirdy
    11 years ago

    My little brother is technically my half brother but I don't see it like that at all. Like my dad is really my stepdad but that's just rubbish. He's my brother and the other is my dad regardless of the blood we do or don't share.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      That's nice. The ties we make in our families should really be more than blood related. Definitely. Did you know this from the beginning?

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      • dirtybirdy
        11 years ago

        Yes. My mom remarried when I was five and my older brother was seven. then about four years later little bro came along. He's a good kid :) I love him to death.

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        • talkingpicturebox
          11 years ago

          That's nice! I guess that's how it should be for sure for everyone.

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  • charli.m
    11 years ago

    My mum told me my dad had a kid before they got married. I just wish I knew who he was.

    If my actual brother turned out to be a half brother, I'd envy the fact he didn't have a biological relationship to our father. Sadly, we both have too many of his features for that to be likely.

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    • talkingpicturebox
      11 years ago

      Don't you want to meet this other sibling of yours? Try it out, for one, I have a half sister that lives in Europe whereas I live in Brazil. I met her when she was little but I would really like to build bonds with her since, heck, she is my little sis. Try it out man. Look into it, you might just find a good friend. who knows until you try?

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      • charli.m
        11 years ago

        He's my father's son, not my mother's. I have no contact with my father (and consequently, my younger half sister). It hurts that I missed her childhood but there is nothing I can do about it. My father has never even admitted to the existance of my older half brother when we were in contact.

        To be perfectly honest, my primary concern regarding my older half brother is that I don't unknowingly meet and date him.

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        • talkingpicturebox
          11 years ago

          Valid point. Parents usually have ways of remaining in contact or know waays of doing so, even if it is years after they don't speak due to divorce or whatnot. Ask your mom, she should for sure know about how to get in touch with your dad, and then, find out about your older bro. Unless he lives in the same radius as your hangout areas there shouldn't be a big chance of you accidently dating him, and if there is, it shouldn't be difficult to find him. Chin up! :)

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          • charli.m
            11 years ago

            Thanks for your words, but I'm not in contact with my father because he is scum. His whole side of the family are like him. I spent my whole life being the adult in that relationship and I am not interested anymore. If he decides to final mature and contact me, fine, but I am not going to put myself through the pain of it again.

            Knowing my older brother would be nice, but I have zero time or energy for it. I barely have time for the family I know and want to spend time with.

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            • talkingpicturebox
              11 years ago

              Know what you mean. Cheers! Keep on keeping on.

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