It is not my fault. All I am saying is a person can't use that excuse for anything in life and to do anything they want either. Somethings have to be talked about if you want to or not. Your view does not justify letting anyone do anything they want to anyone at anytime. Sometimes super bad actions can't just be swept under the rug. Sounds like you need to work on understanding you can't ignore everything in life either. My point is this argument goes both ways and people should not be told to more or less shut up when a person does something super bad. People do also need to take responsibility for their own actions in life.
Dropping it doesn't mean ignoring it. If it's something big then it might be best to end or seriously limit the relationship with that person. I don't really understand why you'd want to keep on with a person who has hurt you badly AND isn't willing to discuss it. I actually have this problem with my mother and I spent years trying to get answers and her aapoval but one day I realized it wasn't happening and I was causing it to be more of a problem than it needed to be. I had to let it go but that doesn't mean I forgot or that nothing changed. A lot changed because I started to respond differently. Like I said, you can only change yourself. Stop being a victim here and take control. Stop being at the mercy of others like this. It's not your job to bring people to justice and that rarely works anyway. Change how you interact with that person. Cut them off or whatever is appropriate.
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It is not my fault. All I am saying is a person can't use that excuse for anything in life and to do anything they want either. Somethings have to be talked about if you want to or not. Your view does not justify letting anyone do anything they want to anyone at anytime. Sometimes super bad actions can't just be swept under the rug. Sounds like you need to work on understanding you can't ignore everything in life either. My point is this argument goes both ways and people should not be told to more or less shut up when a person does something super bad. People do also need to take responsibility for their own actions in life.
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Dropping it doesn't mean ignoring it. If it's something big then it might be best to end or seriously limit the relationship with that person. I don't really understand why you'd want to keep on with a person who has hurt you badly AND isn't willing to discuss it. I actually have this problem with my mother and I spent years trying to get answers and her aapoval but one day I realized it wasn't happening and I was causing it to be more of a problem than it needed to be. I had to let it go but that doesn't mean I forgot or that nothing changed. A lot changed because I started to respond differently. Like I said, you can only change yourself. Stop being a victim here and take control. Stop being at the mercy of others like this. It's not your job to bring people to justice and that rarely works anyway. Change how you interact with that person. Cut them off or whatever is appropriate.