Maybe it's just me but whenever I got yelled at or spanked for asking what I thought were reasonable questions eg) can I go on a camping field trip or visit a friend (which was met by a no), I ended up being depressed and frustrated so i turned to self-harming and furthermore trying to punish myself by punching myself or starving myself just to prove I was the one in control :\
There are definitely other kids who did the same. I wouldn't even count this under spankings, since you're being punished for nothing. It's abuse. Are you still in this situation?
No thankfully. Just bringing up memories from childhood. But I have went on the past few years thinking I was worthless and was diagnosed with anxiety and depression at 13. But I always remind myself to not let the past affect me.
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My parents were old fashioned and it took them a while to kind of "let go." They apparently spanked/yelled at me out of love and also out of fear that I would get hurt since they didn't trust anyone at that time. They weren't born in Canada like I was so when I went to school I was confused that other kids got "privileges" that I didn't. My dad apparently got whipped as a child so he passed this superstrict mentally and also influenced my mom. My parents have apologize years later. Besides I'm a grown up now so I'm in control of my life.
That's good that your out of it then. I had a similar experience, my stepfather was really adamant about respect. He valued it over everything, he didn't care if we hated him or that we were unhappy or whatever else. I don't think he realized that we didn't respect him, we were just too scared to go against him. His father was pretty awful, that's probably what made him this way.
Like your parents my stepdad eventually changed and apologized as well.
What do you think of people spanking/whooping their kids?
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Maybe it's just me but whenever I got yelled at or spanked for asking what I thought were reasonable questions eg) can I go on a camping field trip or visit a friend (which was met by a no), I ended up being depressed and frustrated so i turned to self-harming and furthermore trying to punish myself by punching myself or starving myself just to prove I was the one in control :\
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There are definitely other kids who did the same. I wouldn't even count this under spankings, since you're being punished for nothing. It's abuse. Are you still in this situation?
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No thankfully. Just bringing up memories from childhood. But I have went on the past few years thinking I was worthless and was diagnosed with anxiety and depression at 13. But I always remind myself to not let the past affect me.
A bit of background info:
My parents were old fashioned and it took them a while to kind of "let go." They apparently spanked/yelled at me out of love and also out of fear that I would get hurt since they didn't trust anyone at that time. They weren't born in Canada like I was so when I went to school I was confused that other kids got "privileges" that I didn't. My dad apparently got whipped as a child so he passed this superstrict mentally and also influenced my mom. My parents have apologize years later. Besides I'm a grown up now so I'm in control of my life.
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That's good that your out of it then. I had a similar experience, my stepfather was really adamant about respect. He valued it over everything, he didn't care if we hated him or that we were unhappy or whatever else. I don't think he realized that we didn't respect him, we were just too scared to go against him. His father was pretty awful, that's probably what made him this way.
Like your parents my stepdad eventually changed and apologized as well.