What do you think about my inability to cuss in front of women?

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Something always holds me back from doing so. It is probably because of how I was raised. Of course I have cussed at or around women but that has been on very rare occasions and during flaring tempers, mainly teenage years. But now that I am in my twenties I never cuss normally. Now it only happens when I have a high pulse playing sports or doing something competitive.

With my guy buddies I'll say any and all words and even make up some awful yet poetic cuss phrases. But in front of girls I say crap, ass Shit is 50/50. Sometime's I'm cool using it, sometimes I don't. But that's it, no other words. At times when I am on the verge of saying the F-word I just turn it into ffffffffudge instead though most of the time I would mutter the actual word under my breath. Quite a few women/men I come across nowadays cuss and that's cool, but I still don't. I have to force myself to. It just seems so disrespectful. Which is why I also don't cuss in front of elders.

But given the way people act around me and that I don't cuss I think they are annoyed by me. Which brings me here

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  • disthing
    8 years ago | pl

    It's how you were raised, but that doesn't make it any less silly. It's antiquated behaviour which some might see as patronising, others as endearingly 'old fashioned'.

    If you're happy to swear with your guy buddies, you should be happy to swear in front of your girl buddies. I doubt the girls mind, or watch their language in front of guys.

    Watching your language in front of elders is different, since you usually have a different sort of relationship with the people in your life who are much older than you - they're more likely to be a relative, work colleague, teacher etc. rather than a friend. So it makes sense to be cautious with your use of swear words.

    But yeah, it seems lame to temper your language with a friend just because they happen to have a vagina. Join us in the 21st Century won't you :P

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  • howaminotmyself
    8 years ago | pl

    My brother claims my dad swears like a sailor. However I wouldn't know because he doesn't swear in front if me.

    It was how he was raised. It may be a bit old fashioned, but there is nothing wrong with it.

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  • BioG33k5
    8 years ago | pl

    I see absolutely nothing wrong with this. It's your decision about what you say in front of who. I only regard something as sexist if it's a stereotype or degrading. This is neither. It's most likely a reflection of how you were raised. Be true to yourself, and if that includes being specific about who you cuss in front of, then so be it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      8 years ago | pl

      Thank you for this response. Most logical and reassuring

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  • green_boogers
    8 years ago | pl

    Not a big deal, but most women like lurid dirty talk in bed. Saying these things in a seductive way will help her to release her inner slut.

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  • Fall_leaves
    8 years ago | pl

    I babysit a lot so I have to mind my p's and q's, It's normal. Usually I don't cuss around people, I wait until I'm alone to express my frustration or stress, repeating f*ck over and over into my pillow until I'm calm again.

    I don't have a problem with guys cussing around me when it's like "shit, I forgot my key" or "damn, did you see the preview for that?" I only get annoyed when they're like "So and so is a giant whore she's f*cked the whole lax team!" or "what a f*cking bitch she took the last slice of pizza" you know?

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    • pastor_of_muppets
      8 years ago | pl

      Hahaha this is, by far, the most adorable thing I have ever read :'D

      "...to express my frustration or stress, repeating f*+! over and over into my pillow..."

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  • Ilovecocaineandmeth
    8 years ago | pl

    you're a fucking cunt

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  • WhiteStallion
    8 years ago | pl

    I don't swear in front of people... However when they do overhear me swearing they know its a serious situation. I don't think cussing is cool at all but it has proved to me to be a short-term method to deal with my frustrations.

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  • vaginahouse
    8 years ago | pl

    i fuckin hate women whiney little bitchs that always have to get there way

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