What describes your family best, dominance-wise?

Controlling, dominant mother and insecure, violent, abusive father. More influential was my grandmother (in a good way). She wasn't dominant in the slightest, was very funny, patient, and interesting.

My mother was in charge of money (my father messed it up badly), my father was in charge of the house and car, and my grandma was often in charge of me (my parents didn't want me around any more when I was four or five so I spent lots of nights on my grandmother's sofa). Without her, I can't see that I'd be alive now. I miss her every day.