1. Be yourself. Obvious right? It's not that easy once you're in a serious relationship for the first time. Don't categorize/limit yourself into a "type" and have your partner fall in love with the fake-personality gimmick. Another is, don't be afraid of your flaws or tarnishing your image either; if you got to fart, just fart; if you got to poop, then go blow that bathroom up; you're not the first human to do seemly embarrassing shit and you wont be the last.
2. Be honest. I use to be one of those people who would be like, "Communication is key!" But until recently, I realized that talking doesn't always get you anywhere if nothing is truly being said. Never be afraid to tell your partner the truth, just don't do it in a malicious way.
3. Don't try to change your partner, whether it be for good or selfishness. Basically, see your partner for who she/he really is, a person. What you see is what you get, personality included. There's no, "Oh, he'll mature as he gets older." Or, "If I'm nice to her, she'll be nice to me!" People don't work like that. Change happens from within and only if that person is ready; you can't force it.
4. Always have self-respect. This is an odd one, but it's very important. If you care about yourself, potentially bad/abusive partners can't take advantage of you or you'll realize how terrible they are a lot sooner rather than years down the road.
So those are my top 4. There's more, but to me, those are the most important.
What are keys to healthy relationship
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1. Be yourself. Obvious right? It's not that easy once you're in a serious relationship for the first time. Don't categorize/limit yourself into a "type" and have your partner fall in love with the fake-personality gimmick. Another is, don't be afraid of your flaws or tarnishing your image either; if you got to fart, just fart; if you got to poop, then go blow that bathroom up; you're not the first human to do seemly embarrassing shit and you wont be the last.
2. Be honest. I use to be one of those people who would be like, "Communication is key!" But until recently, I realized that talking doesn't always get you anywhere if nothing is truly being said. Never be afraid to tell your partner the truth, just don't do it in a malicious way.
3. Don't try to change your partner, whether it be for good or selfishness. Basically, see your partner for who she/he really is, a person. What you see is what you get, personality included. There's no, "Oh, he'll mature as he gets older." Or, "If I'm nice to her, she'll be nice to me!" People don't work like that. Change happens from within and only if that person is ready; you can't force it.
4. Always have self-respect. This is an odd one, but it's very important. If you care about yourself, potentially bad/abusive partners can't take advantage of you or you'll realize how terrible they are a lot sooner rather than years down the road.
So those are my top 4. There's more, but to me, those are the most important.